Yesterday, was the last straw for me! I thought that my husband and I had made some headway when it came to his daughter and her behavior towards me. Well from my prior posts I explained how she can be quite disrespectful from the snide remarks to manipulating her Disney dad father and I into huge arguments. Last Friday, the last straw was the inappropriate affection behavior (see previous post). I explained to my husband that I had enough of her behavior and that he needs to address her because I was finished with her behavior and that he needed to handled all affairs in regard to her solely on his own. I told him that perhaps he needed to have a talk with her and explain that there is no need for her to "compete" with me for his affection. That I am his wife and she is daughter and that he can love both of us at the same time and explain the difference to her. I feel he basically needed to give her reassurance and explain that there was no need to vie for his love. In other words, she has a tendency to behave like a 5 or 6 year old. For example, If I kiss him on the cheek and hug him which I sometimes do when he comes home from work, she will grab him around his waist and kiss him on the lips. Yeah, you read it correctly! It is like she feels she has to one up me. Some other examples of her behavior would be if I ask her to clean up her filthy bedroom, she would turn her nose up, like how dare you ask me to do anything or flat out refuse to do anything I ask her. Well any way, he was supposed to talk with her about those things on yesterday. Instead of doing that this blundering idiot tells his daughter that I want to talk to her. She knocks on my office door which is closed with a sign on it that says,"working do not disturb!" So you already know I am infuriated right out of the gate, because I work from home, that is a huge no-no! Anyway, I ignore the door and finish what I am working on and address my husband by asking why was he or she knocking on my office door. He tell me that SHE wants to talk to me. I told him that he knows that no one is suppose to disturb me at all when my office door is closed. Granted I had just finished a conference call regarding work. I am on fire by now. He apologizes and I return to my office with the door open waiting for SD13. She walks into my office with a bit of an attitude stating that her father told her I wanted to talk to her. I told her that was not true and I did not know why he told her that. Essential what this chicken shit coward did was try to put the conversation he was suppose to have with HIS daughter on me. I swear by the most high I was absolutely livid at this point. I told her that she needed to talk to her father. She leaves and goes to him and they both come back. He tells me that he talked to her but that he did not understand what exactly I wanted him to talk to her about. Boy, by now I am beyond livid! I told him and her that I was tired of her smart-ass comments and shitty attitude and that I have spend my time, money and given her things that she not only needed but WANTED. I told both of them that I was not going to tolerate being disrespected my her and that she was FAKE and that she acted nice when her dad was around and acted like an ass towards me when her father was not around. She of course tried to lie which infuriated me more. Then she stated well you made me give some things back to you, I told her that's right, if you are going to treat me like crap and act snotty you can give me my shit back and get your dad to get it for you. Any way it was getting no where because she was trying to hide her behavior that she was exhibiting towards when her dad was not present from him. I told her that as well, I told her that she needed to come clean and stop trying to hide the truth from her father, of course, he was right there, she stated that it wasn't directed towards me. Um excuse me, you and I are the only ones in this house when you dad is not here. Come on, did she really try to lie even further when she could no longer deny how she had been acting when he was not present. I was floored! :jawdrop: So of course, my husband grabs his daughter and gets angry at me and sits in her room with her holding her because she is in tears at this point because she had been exposed to her father and she did not want that, that is why she did it behind his back. She then proceeds to tell me that since I was referring her to her father for everything from now on, I was given up on her. I told her no, I was demanding that she respects and appreciates what I do for and with her. I told her over and over during the argument that my job was to be a good wife to her father and that is what I agreed to when I married him and not to be walked all over by her or his family for that matter. I told her that was not going to deal with it anymore, I told her that she has a mother and a father, let them deal with her shit. I was so angry and hurt at this point. Well, need I say it made no difference, she and he both me me out to be that "bad guy" once again. I am so pissed that I was placed in that position to begin with, maybe one of you can find some good that come from this whole blow up. I am so through with my idiot of a husband at this point. I am in a no win situation. I never agreed to this shit when I married this idiot! :?