poor deluded DH
I say this sarcastically.
Seriously? SD15 has ignored DH for 3 weeks. (Clearly she doesn't need anything from him or she'd be all over him. )
When his sister asked about it, he spouted some nonsense about how she doesn't check her emails/texts regularly... OMG :jawdrop:
What 15yr old do you know doesn't have their phone attached to them??
Anyway, thank god, my SIL called him on it- "Come on dude- that light is forever buzzing on her phone. You think she didn't see it??"
DH maintained his stance and just said, "What do you want me to do?" (There have been some past battles about this with BM, SD and DH)
I just drank my wine...
I suppose that they have to create some rationalization/ fantasy, right? Just makes me more and more resentful of the little brat. 15 is old enough to not ignore your dad.
one a good note- DH hasn't been sad or anything. In the past this would have made him moody, instead we've been having jam packed fun weekends with no skid. Knock on wood.
I thank God everyday that my
I thank God everyday that my DH is not a blind idiot when it comes to his daughter. He doesn't trust her anymore than I do.
On the phone the other day, she asked him how I was doing. DH says, "You never ask how hereiam is doing, why now?"
A few weeks ago, she said something about calling me Mom. DH tells her, "You are 23 years old, why would you want to start calling her Mom now?" Then he told me I should let her, just to see what she's up to.
Nope, he doesn't trust her one bit.
Yes, they are blind. SO
Yes, they are blind.
SO bought SD a phone for her 10th B Day last year. She lost it within 2 months. Didn't once text or call him on it. Now it's BM's fault that SD can't call him when she wants to because she is working/partying nights and SD can't use her phone. NO, it's SD's fault for losing the expensive phone you bought her.
I always hated my DH being
I always hated my DH being mopey over skids. Then me and our kids had to deal with it. He got all mopey when I told him that SD, her husband and their kid could NOT move in with us. Seriously? Do you not see that I'm trying to dodge a major bullet here? Why would he think housing and feeding 3 extra jobless people would be a good idea? BTW, brother in law came to stay with us "for a couple of weeks" 2 and a half years ago (and looks like he has no plans to leave anytime soon, but that's a whole other show). I swear, these men are incapable of critical thinking when it comes to their goddamn kids! Or their brothers!
LOL! He has moments of
LOL!
He has moments of serious clarity. I mean he shocks me sometimes that he sees the manipulation. I know right now he is seeing or experiencing something, because he is his usual cheery self and we have lots of stuff on the go. We are jammed for the next few weekends, then go away for 16 days.
In the past, he would have been pouting/moody and it makes me nuts. He had started "keeping weekends open in case SD is coming over." ( NOT me, him.) She came 3 weekends in a row, because she needed things. BM doesn't drive and cries poor constantly despite ridiculous amounts of CS, so DH forks it out to SD in the form of, stuff for her room, art supplies, certain outings etc.. The last time she was here, he spent 2 days all over town chauffeuring her to this and that.
Then she ignores him. (i know he brings it on himself) I do thank her BM for teaching her how to be a selfish little brat though. Apple doesn't fall far. He will be strong until she calls/texts/emails. I hope he sees it is because she needs something...
Do they EVER see the light??
My DH has some moments of
My DH has some moments of clarity as well. He is so inconsistent with his parenting. As least BM is a consistent bad parent. I know it must be hard for him to see his angel as a complete fuck up, but he helped create this train wreck.
She tries to pull the 'I didn't see your text/get your voicemail' crap with DH too. It's permanently glued to her hand. But if she wants something and DH doesn't respond to her in mere seconds, he will have a dozen texts and a half dozen voicemails. Sometimes he will wait a whole day to respond and sometimes he will apologize for his phone charging and him missing her calls.
Funny how she never calls the house phone when she wants something; for fear I will pick up. Only DH's cell because she knows I never answer it.