Burn in hell dad
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Dh shared with me the texts that came from his ex last week. Recall that this was triggered by him calling his 27 year old daughter, who has refused to make any payments on a 5 k loan dh consigned for her. His ex called him 5 min after he called his daughter. She told him poor daughter is mentally ill, which is an excuse for awful behavior over the years! So dh calls them sociopaths, a true description.
"Sociopaths! Disgusting! This is from your daughter. Tell him that I hate him and I want him to rot and burn in hell for eternity. I have felt this way for years."
Shocking right?
How many dh's out there would drop everything at this point and flee forever? I am hoping my dh does! This is over the top for even these monsters.
And I have to add that his
And I have to add that his daughter HAS seen therapists over the years, whom she manipulates. She has attacked both dh and his mother when she was 10 years old! She threatened to kill herself when dh and ex went to bring her home from college. So she stayed for 4 years, failing every semester, without a degree and now in debt for 80k.
He has no contact in years with her. She lives high on the hog, works and it seems now all the loans are finally coming due, which is a real pain for such a princess! Dh I think is finally afraid of these people. But to write that to anyone, unbelievable, right ?
I hope step aside. I truly
I hope step aside. I truly do. He seemed to have little emotional reaction to it. I think he has heard stuff like this many times before. I remember the last time I saw them. About 6 years ago, and they called after having a huge tantrum in the driveway. Dh answered the phone. You could hear one daughter yelling and screaming, and he just put the cell phone in his pocket, and calmly went on weeding! All the while she was hysterical!
But honestly, Will THEY let him go? Remember the huge debt?
He doesn't care about the
He doesn't care about the money. It is a fairly small amount. He paid out 60k for her college and easily 100k for all the legal fees over the years. He misses those girls every day. If only they could realize who they tossed away so cruelly.
"Burn in Hell Dad, but please
"Burn in Hell Dad, but please keep the checks coming." }:) My heart breaks for your DH, that is a horrible way to treat any human being especially your father.
your husband must be a coward
your husband must be a coward not to put his foot down over this. mentally ill or not, this is unacceptable.
this is the most blatant example of children seeing a parent as money bags.
So sad. At 27 she's damn old
So sad. At 27 she's damn old enough to know better. His life will be so much better if he lets go. And builds an impenetrable boundary.
my skids are always calling
my skids are always calling and making small talk with him. just so he'll think he's loved and will open his wallet for them. played for a sucker.
I realize that my view is
I realize that my view is skewed by the fact that I do not have children. But to me DNA is meaningless. My shit has my DNA but I don't want anything to do with it except to dispose of it.
I have to say that this
I have to say that this behavior started very young. I happened to look at a home video of dh's when we started dating. He never knew about it. I wanted to see him with hair! Lol! Anyway the video was of dh, his ex, and this daughter ...all of 3 or 4 years old. She was annoying the baby and dh stepped in and immediately his ex ran to the daughter's defense. Dh then looked frustrated. But I was amazed to see the dynamic right on video!
The ex more than likely was
The ex more than likely was siding with daughter that she didn't need to pay her dad, who knows for sure, but why else would BM being calling your husband and making excuses for daughter?? This is a huge problem with step family and children of divorce. One parent will support poor behavior, sometimes both and then the child feels comfortable to make these claims against the non-supportive parent. All of which more than likely would not have happened if he couple would have stayed together but the angry parent finds it acceptable to bash the missing parent. Not a good situation at all. The children are learning that it is okay to be disrespectful towards the parent and the child goes back and forth to get the support from which ever parent will support them at that time so they end up glorifying the one parent for a time and then that very parent they once glorified is in the toilet and called every awful name under the sun when the child cannot get his/her way. I have dealt with it since my husband and I divorced many years ago.