My Life
Is like a country song gone bad.
"DH-ya ain't much fun since I quit drinkin"
Working on the lyrics to that one. Any help would be appreciated.
and for Zippy:
"How can I miss ya when ya won't go away"?
Well-the red seas parted the other day and Zippy16 had a friend over-(remember Art Garfunkel?-friend looks like that)-
Here's "Awkward Socialization of Your Teen" 101-
Zippy texts Dad to announce that Art is coming over after school.
DH calls to check in with me at work
To announce Art is coming over and miracle of miracles there appears to be enough dinner for everyone!! Yee Haw!
I get home to much "12 year old" hooting and hollering in the basement (remember-these young men are 6'1" and 6'4"-between 16, 17 years old respectively)-trying to talk over the din is almost impossible-DH is happily cooking away for his brood-whistling a tune....
I trudge upstairs to change....
Almost dinner-
Zippy crawls up the stairs interupting DH and I-with a demand to DH-
"UHH -What time is Art going home"
Me :?
DH: I don't know Zippy-What time is Art going home?
Zippy: "Uhh -Art needs a ride home"
DH -slowly starts to lose it....
"Zippy-unbelievable-did I just hear what I thought I heard? When you called me this afternoon-did you ask me "politely" if Art could have a ride home?" "You expect me to drop everything right now and drive Art home"?
(Art lives-10 minutes away)
Zippy: stands there blinking rapidly saying nothing
DH: Art can stay for dinner-NO I will not give Art a ride-figure this out.
Zippy crawls back downstairs-
a few minutes later
DH proceeds to say to me-call the boys up for dinner let them serve themselves first-(like there will be anything left after that)-
Boys eat downstairs-I go down to get some paper towels 20 minutes later- DH is coming down with me for something else-(boys have left for GASP-to catch a bus so Art can get home)-all their dishes all over-garbage everywhere-ARGHH-
I find this "mixed messages" from DH
Does anyone else live like this? :?
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Not exactly, but here's a somewhat as annoying scenerio
my skids are not teens yet, but SD10 can push my buttons like a little self-absorbed, bad attitude, can't entertain herself without some gadget, teen would.
Last Saturday, we had the kids although it was BM's weekend because FH's sister was in town visiting and had brought her daughter, skid's cousin. They hadn't seen her since Christmas and wanted to hang out so, FH switched some weekdays with BM to get the skids for the weekend.
They all stay at our house Friday night. Saturday morning, SD10, "Daddy can I go to my friend's birthday party at (arcade type place)?"
FH - When is it?
SD - I don't know, but it's over at like 7.
FH - That doesn't help me, you can't just ask me if you can do something if you don't have all the information.
He kind of goes off on her a bit following this line for awhile and SD is somewhat upset by this revelation and FH wanders off to go tinker with something. SD wanders off to her room.
She comes back and says to me:
SD - I can text my friend and find out what time the party is.
Me - I think it's a little rude for you to be going to a party when you haven't seen your cousin in months and she is here to visit you. She doesn't know your friend, she wasn't invited to this party. Don't you think you'd feel a little badly if she took off without you in a similar situation?
So that was the end of that. Who cares when the party is, yeah it's annoying when you get bugged to do stuff and they don't have the details, but it was a non-issue in this instance I felt, because of our guests.
It's like we have to train these men in manners while we're trying to train their kids. Luckily, her cousin was in the other room while all of this was going on.
Am I taking crazy pills or would it not have been rude to let her abandon her cousin she sees only a handful of times a year to go to a party for a kid she sees everyday?
I wish I had told her the best way to have handled it would have been to tell the friend when she was initially invited I'm sorry I won't be able to make it my cousin will be visiting and I should spend time with her. If the friend chooses to invite the cousin as well, so be it. If not, it was a gracious decline.
Exactly!
"It's like we have to train these men in manners while we're trying to train their kids. Luckily, her cousin was in the other room while all of this was going on.
Am I taking crazy pills or would it not have been rude to let her abandon her cousin she sees only a handful of times a year to go to a party for a kid she sees everyday?"
It is rude to "dump" a visitor because something better came along!
I guess-you like me have to:
1. Explain to DH or SO-why "whatever" would be rude SO
DH or SO can explain it to their kid-
DH got a wake up call this week-
Precious Zippy16-is NOT equipped for the "real" world-only places that coddle you along like a 12 year old-
Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!
also known as
I got one,
"my body stinks my rooms amess but whatta i care dad loves me the best."
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
I have to ask
Why on earth would ya quit drinkn'?
Sometimes when the skids are going crazy I think, "Now, I understand why BM was a druggie."
Stay Tuned
For the foot stomping version this weekend of
"My Armpit Smells Better than Zippy's Room"
Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!
Endora!!!!!!!!!
I almost fell out of my chair and peed my pants with howling laughter over this one!! You crack me up...I'm crying right now!!! LMAO!!!
Oh, Endora...
you always make me laugh with your visuals... but I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Blabb's room smells like pee and it's absolutely horrid. I've tried to keep it clean in the past but that child apparently likes to trash it... for whatever reason. I'm to the point now where I just want to get her a doggy house and make her sleep in that.
And get DH one too for not disciplining her on this matter.
I'm all for that sitcom!
Ready for that
Sitcom too!
Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!
Put your hands together for
Put your hands together for the vocal stylings of Blabb's and her father singing their rendition of "In the dog house again"!!
Oh, Endora...
you always make me laugh with your visuals... but I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Blabb's room smells like pee and it's absolutely horrid. I've tried to keep it clean in the past but that child apparently likes to trash it... for whatever reason. I'm to the point now where I just want to get her a doggy house and make her sleep in that.
And get DH one too for not disciplining her on this matter.
I'm all for that sitcom!