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Does DH do things just to piss off your BM - using you as the decoy?

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Submitted by liks on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 1:42pm

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hmmm...I dont know but sometimes - and its more than just a couple of times....I think that my DH does things just to piss of the BM - like doing stuff for me etc that he obviously didnt do for her and that gets her really frothing in the mouth...

But I cant be sure....

Does anyone else have any experience or dejavu type feelings that this happens in their relationship too.??? Wink

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 3:29pm

Um, yeah. We have breakfast with BM on mothers day every year so I can spend time with SS since I am his stepMOTHER. (BM's idea, I know... shocking, right?) But this year DH brought my mothers day gift TO breakfast along with all of the cards the kids (including SS) and had me open it right in front of her. It was awkward and funny all at the same time. Especially since the gift was pricy, and Bm is flat broke.

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Submitted by simifan on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 6:30pm

Oh yeah, my hubby is guilty of that. He loves to say to BM "My WWIIFFEE" (long, loud & drawn out - keep in mind her never married her)& I will have to discuss it... then hangs up & take the phone off the hook. Sends her in a tizzy every time.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 6:35pm

Yep my dh is guilty of the same thing. He will make it a point to hold my head or touch me some how or whatever if I am with him to pick up or drop off. I try not to say anything to her.

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Submitted by wkd_sm on Fri, 09/30/2011 - 2:43am

DH used to make sure I was at every visitation drop off and pick up. He also makes it a point to introduce me to all her family and friends whenever we bump into them. He doesn't even try to hide it, he says he wants to show her that he left her for something better. Goodness doesn't that make you feel good in an evil kind of way?

He also posts some of the most horrible stuff on facebook, such as how much he loves me, how happy he is now FINALLY. And he posted pictures of my engagement/wedding ring and moaned and groaned about how he would be paying for it forever! (He and BM never got married although they were "engaged" for 9 years and she kept asking him "wheres my ring? wheres my ring?") He has also NEVER bought her any type of jewelry and we were engaged 3 months after we started dating and married a year later. She is not his facebook friend, but he makes sure to leave his wall open to "friends of friends" because we know she trolls around and checks it every time. SD tells us how LIVID she is! LOL!