Well DH have had a HUGE amount of problems so far in our marriage of almost 2 years. But before the problems always related to the kids but for the past few months, it has been us. When we met he was like a fairy tale man...a loving,sweet, compassionate, caring, involved man. It was amazing. Now, DH barely communicates with me, we fight about evreything that has to do with anything, we never have sex, etc. In January, I found texts from another female that he had been texting all day every day for over a month. Although I don't think there is anything there now, I do think he is hiding something. Every day for the psat week I've tried talking to him. He doesn't call/text at all while at work, I ask him to call when he is done work so I can start dinner and he rarely does that, he has been "busy" every night the past week. He comes home, sits on the computer all night or goes to the bedroom and watches TV. If I try to talk to him, he gets mad. He told me its not fair that bc I am a stay at home mom (only bc I got fired for having children, NOT by choice and am looking for a job) I got "alone" time all day and he deserves it at night. I said NOT every night ALL night! I don't really get much "alone" time to sit and do whatever I want during the day, not NEARLY the HOURS he sits and ignores me. our DS has HUGE, thick feet and I cant find shoes that fit him. Yesterday I ask him to come with us to the Stride Rite store to pick out shoes. He then told me DS doesn't need shoes and that he didn't agree with buying expensive shoes! SEriously, if SS needed special shoes- he would have bought them! I keep wasting money trying to get shoes that never work out bc his feet are just too big. ANyway, didn't go buy the shoes. Then he spent all day watching Harry Potter movies. I asked him to come outside and play with DS and me, he came outside eventually, cut the grass and went back to watching his movies. DD was in trouble again last night. Her attitude has been bad and she treats DH the same way alot of skids treat the mothers on this site. I've been trying to work on it forever but DH believes I am on DD side and not his (which is because of her manipulative ways) and if I can't get him to see HER motives, I will never get this problem fixed. ANyway, he has been punishing DD and I disagreed with his method. So we bought this BEhavior Wheel program. It lists the 8 top behavior issues we are having and we got to select 20 consequences for each behavior. Soo when she acts up, she just clicks and "spins" the wheel on the computer for her punishment. I know it's not exactly the best idea but I thought FOR SURE this would solve the issue between DH and I not agreeing. (BTW DH told me right away that he wasn't using this method for the toddlers! Well DS1 doesn't need punishment and SS4 is NOT a toddler! ugh). ANyway, D spinned the wheel lsat night and lost TV for 24 hours. I made him get up with the kids this morning. I came downstairs and DD is sitting in the dining rm bc she isn't allowed in the living rm while DH is watching TV. I simply asked him if she had to stay out of the living room all day or is she allowed to play in there as he watches HIS shows. He FLIPS shit and starts yelling at me about how I am defending DD, etc. I told him we never came to a conclusion about how to punish her with no TV but not everyone else and not have it completely unfair (like I dont think DD should have to sit in the dining rm all day bc DH wants to plop his ass on the couch from the morning to evening. Back to last night- I again asked DH to spend time with me and he said "what do I need him for, I have my phone" I told him I only spend so much time texting bc I am bored and am tired of following him around like a little puppy for him to reject me. He again said it wasnt fair that I wanted him to spend time with me but I was already watching a show he didnt want to watch. He didnt ask me to change the channel or anything. I told him he sounds like DD6 with the "its not fair stuff". LIFE ISNT FAIR! I told him if you want to be alone, then why are u married? If nothing is fair, why are you married? I Told him the worst part is that I know hes not in love with me anymore. If there was ANY love there, he would desire SOME kind of interaction with me. He sat with me for a few minutes pretending to want to be there before he went to bed. I wish I had the strength to leave bc I know thats what I need to do

Nope, he had no reply to the lack of love comment. I sat teary eyed on the couch and he stared off into space on the steps before getting up to go to the computer...then he gave me a few minutes of time before he went to bed. He tells me money doesn't get to him...it's me who worries about money all the time. I am collecting unemployment so financially we aren't too much worse than we were before I lost my job. I handle all the money and he has no concerns about it. I have asked him to go to therapy before (as he went with his ex who he supposedly never loved what wanted to make it work for SS) but he doesn't seem interested. I ask him why he is always throwing divorce, etc out there with me but he fought to save the relationship with the ex. We havea DS together and I DO NOT want him to have the life that I see SS have. Its overwhelming, complicated, etc for such a small child. As much as they try, I don't think SS will ever have a "normal" life bc of the way he lives from house to house, etc. DH isn't happy. He says I "nag" and am miserable. Which makes me more angry bc I LOVE being a SAHM right now. I love spending time with my kids but I hate that he doesn't talk and sometimes it does ruin my mood. I hate that I see the favoritism for SS and hte lack there of for DD an DS. I hate his guilty parenting of SS and overparenting of DD. I would love to go to therapy but if he isn't on board, I know I should just leave. He obviously doesn't want to work on things. He completely changed since we have gotten married. I know I still am in love with the man I married, whereever he is.