Following on from my previous post .. DH has been alienated from his daughter for the passed 5 years. She's 19 now and her mother is absolutely poison. We have tried to make attempts of contact over the years which always end in tears ( for us too ) her mother has a tracker on her, has completely brainwashed her. Anyway she's reconnected and we are going to meet SD. I feel desperately sorry for her and the abuse she is subjected to and is her mums wingman. DH and I are finally settled and to be perfectly honest I am quite happy not to have her in our lives. I feel so selfish saying that ! DH had also accepted the situation after years of rejection and heartbreak. Now here she is... we have tried everything with this girl and it all ends as soon as the mum starts one of her rages . She just disengages .Now it appears she doesn't want any to argue anymore and she wants to forget the passed. I can't. I know she is only a bit reasonable atm as the mum has split with her partner and now the maintenance my DH paid has stopped ( last moth ) 

how can I try and connect with her again. DH said just go with the flow but we have tried that before and it didn't work out