I need your advice! We have full custody of my sd 4. Her fifth birthday is coming up. A little bit of background- her mom has not really been in the picture since she was 21/2 she is in and out of jail and stuff does not even have dh phone number. does not ask to see kid ever. sd goes and stays with bm parents who are completely normal. they offer to help whenever they can buy her presents take her to fb games just completely different from bm. they dont agree with bm and the stuff she does but yet shes their baby so they bail her out of jail often and give her a place to stay. sd told grandparents about birthday party. dh has been harrassing me about inviting them to her birthday party. he says it is rude not to. i pulled to different ways! i mean i dont want them to just happen to bring bm becaus the last time i saw her three years ago she punched me in the face. but i dont want to keep them from coming bc they do help out alot and sd wants them there. it would be so awkward though with my whole family and then them! what should i do?