Opening arms for BM
I was totally shocked when I found that my sister-in-law has now become friends with my husband's ex-wife. It was a vicious split between them many years ago, and the whole family of my husbad never liked her...........but strangely enough she has manipulated her way back into their lives? I feel like that I am going to be pushed away by all of the family, especially my step children............I hate not having anyone to talk to.............How do I cope with the feelings and thought going through my head. We have been together for 7 years and married for 5...........and have been enjoying our life with all of our children grown up - 3 boys from hubbie's previous karriage to witch-2 girls and 1 boy from my previous marriage. none of which live with us. My kid's adore their step-dad, but who knows what my step kids think of me.
Nice to know that it is not just me........
Thanks for the reply MinneMom. I have always thought to myself that I have to get over stupid things like worrying about what other people are doing and thinking, especially when it comes to the witch of an ex-wife. She put my husband through hell when she left him and took the boys. He had to start over again from nothing........and she certainly took him for everything when it came to child support. Now that she has separated from her second husband, who took her for all of what she had taken from my DH, and is living with the middle son (who has gone bankrupt and is starting over again), she has actually tried to keep in touch with my DH, sending him SMS, and SS has only been back in DH 's life for 6 months after not wanting anything to do with him for 6 years - hated his father and didn't want the burden of his surname - now SS got daddy to buy him a car within a month of the reconciliation................and SS wants daddy to go guarantor for him as he wants to buy a home again!!!!!!!!! I get sick and tired of DH being the bank for his kids. We never had any help when we were growing up, and that's how they should be. I feel so much better within myself to be able to let all my mixed up feelings out.......thanks for listening.......
This type of situation is what led me here
We've only been married two years, but my SILS turned against us when we got married. The ringleader (I call her Evil) buddied up to the BM that she had told DH to divorce. The other 2 did not acknowledge our marriage--in fact "Whiny" turned her back on me in public the first time I saw her after our wedding. (we eloped) IN our case, DH was the "man" of the family, the unpaid helper who took care of everyone to his own detriment (3 sisters and his mom). He finally said enough and got his own life. So of course they blamed me. Evil is a narcissist who thought DH was her new buddy and son surrogate. Her jealousy and sense of control knew no bounds when we got married. Something about marriage does that to this sick people. It was really ugly for about a year. Then we moved. BM of course goes to every holiday event of theirs (even though the kids are 16 and 20). They all still live in the same area and, as the Southerners, say, "they're bitches, God bless their hearts."