Out of curiosity How do these situations usually manifest into adulthood
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I always imagined “Junior” turning into an active shooter when he found out the world Indeed did not revolve around him when Becoming an adult.
In all seriousness do step kids that are spoiled, Coddled make Excuses for rude disrespectful behavior turn out once they reach adulthood? Do they ever reach 18, 20 , 30, 40 and Finally turn into decent human beings?
Well, we haven't got past 30
Well, we haven't got past 30 yet but no, they don't.
Nope.
Nope.
Apparently not, based on my information. So, I have been 'told'
My observation is that they
My observation is that they manage to get by on their manipulation skills by going from person to person. And occasionally end up in jail, especially if they're male. Females seems to be both better at finding people to support their parasitic lifestyle and staying under the radar if they are doing things actually illegal.
Ok I had to jump in on this one
You said " Females seems to be both better at finding people to support their parasitic lifestyle". So does that mean "boys" tend to grow out of this parasitic lifestyle once they become adults??? Ive been reading LOTS of posts on here and it seem "girls' tend to stay needy/clingy to daddy more so than boys when they grow up. I'm hoping thats true as my SS is really bad and don't want to think of him living in our basment at 30!
Sorry to say, not necessarily
Sorry to say, not necessarily. I was mainly thinking of my ODS dad (and some of his buddies also from my hometown) on that one who has an unbelievable talent (for lack of a better word) for managing to find people to sponge off of. But I think women have an easier time of it because it's easier to play to a man's provider instincts or play the weaker sex card. Although I think as they get older and less attractive people wise up it still gets harder. So ex goes to jail/prison over and over instead so he can get fed and have a place to sleep and hang out with his buddies and sponge off of taxpayers instead.
Doesnt mean he will be in your basement though. Make it uncomfortable as you can for him to be there and he will probably find someone else to use instead.
Some do but only when they finally have to fend for themselves
Have a look at the Blog I posted RE YSS. He is 23 and a Complete turn around although it came at the cost of a great deal of personal trials. As one of the family said .. How he went from a self centered arrogant prick (excuse the language) to an upstanding, fine young man/father/husband is beyond me but I'm proud
5/13 success rate
Both my husband and I have step siblings. My dad's wife has 4 kids, 3 different dads. One of them is no longer alive. He passed at 19. Her youngest son is 19 now, drug dealer. Lived with them for a few months at 17, was stealing $ from my dad. Her 2 oldest daughters live at their dads with their husband and boyfriend, and one of them has 4 kids with the bf. On my husbands side he has 2 bio brothers, 29 and 22, 2 step brothers 35 and 32, and a step sister 30. 35 yr old is a drug addict with 2 boys he never sees and a druggy gf. 32 yr old is in a depression because he can't hold down a decent relationship. Their mother pays for their mortgages and basically supports them. My DH's bio brothers, the 29 yr old is a criminal, in and out of jail. The 22 yr old is an alcoholic slob. The only ones doing well are his step sister and him from that bunch. I have 2 bio sisters and we are all married and self sufficient. My parents divorced when I was 16. My DH's dad passed when he was 13. So I'm going to say based on the odds, majority of them arent succesful.
There is no quantifiable
There is no quantifiable evidence that indicates that when they start out as coddled toxic crotch nuggets that they progress beyond that status as adults. Particularly when their breeder parents never put their collective foot up toxic spawn ass.