My ex and I decided 50/50 no child support and it works for us.

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Your husband should have went to court from start if he wanted the extra time to be offical. He could have request FROR So this isn't a case of family court being against fathers.

I completely disagree that it is not the courts job to identify the facts. It is definitely the Judge’s job to consider the facts and that includes digging for them if necessary. Nearly the entire problem is that the bench in family law courts is filled far too often by the useless asses of the bottom 10%ers of the legal profession.

The insane frequency of these dipshitiots getting it so, so, so wrong is proof beyond both the legendary reasonable doubt and the preponderance of the evidence. That we tolerate their despicable hides in such an important place is disgusting IMHO. Only the best of the best should rule on what is in the best interests of a child. Marginal morons of that profession have no business ruling on what is in the best interests of children. The true joke is that there is no true thing as family law. It is not generated by legislators, it is case law and ruling made by idiots have been allowed to stand and harm countless children and victimized parents who have stood as semi-willing victims of the idiot judges.

I quote "I hope everyone feels better now because I am going to do what I always do". This after all day, countless $thousands in travel costs and legal fees, dozens of people's wasted time to testify and present the facts about the fetid stench of the shallow and polluted end of my SS's gene pool.

We went in prepared, believing in the process, and very, very ready to put an end to the entire disgusting crap brought by the Sperm Clan. We left coated in the stench of the entire process and particularly with the reek of the idiot on the bench.

Our witnesses included Police Officers, certified foster parents, underage girls that DickHead had perpetrated statutory rape with, people who had seen him giving SS booze at parties when he was between 9mos and a year old, people who had whitnesed him having sex in public with the 16yo who he had married three weeks before court so he would not be arrested for statutory rape on the spot, etc…. The judge admonished us for submitting so much stuff for him to review which if he had actually read it he would have needed about 10secs to make a quality ruling. For months this judge agreed to every bullshit reschedule they asked for, lauded what a "fine" family that the Sperm Clan is and how any child would be fortunate to have such pillars of the community in their lives, how the whole thing was a waste of time and that he had had to not take a murder trial because we refused to yet again tolerate a postponement of our hearing :sick: , :sick: , :sick:

We still won but I was so pissed when the judge was spouting his bullshit that I was shaking. His eyes got as big as saucers when right after he banged the Fisher-Price hammer closing the hearing I gave out a stern “That’s bullshit and it will be fun to appeal to some judges who have half a brain!” He called the Bailiff over and whispered in his ear. The Bailiff walked over and asked me to leave the courtroom. I refused and said. “Nope, the hearing is closed. The Judge has no authority to ask me to leave a public place unless he wants to reopen the court wich would be great if he would do that and actually give a better than half assed ruling.” The Judge turned purple and the Bailiff tried not to laugh. And I stayed. Granted I stepped back behind the rail so as to not push it too far.

I had been threatened repeatedly with contempt of court if I continued to refuse to provide my income information to the Judge. I had refused because I could not provide it following the Judge’s ruling that I was not a party to the case. If I was not a party to the case, neither was my money. That basic concept of logic was way beyond what his honor’s pea brain could process. I had a great time tying him in knots on that one. Particularly when he told me that if I said another word and did not provide record of my income that he would have me arrested for contempt and then blew a gasket when I refused to say another word and just sat there looking at him like he was an idiot. A called our attorney over and said “Please tell the judge that I cannot say another word or he will throw me in jail so no, I will not be saying another word to the Judge.” That was some fun, let me tell ya. The really fun part was the envelope that I had sat on the corner of the bench when I took the stand. The whole time he was struggling with the logic of demanding my income information after ruling that I was not a party to the case my income information was sitting about a foot and half from his left hand. Oh he was so pissed when I refused to say another word per his instructions then with a smart asked smirk on my face leaned towards him and tapped on the envelope that had been their the whole time.

So, rather than stand at the foot of the bench after being asked to leave by the Bailiff I stepped behind he rail.

I informed our marginal attorney during our post hearing meeting that I was going to contest the crap out of the judge’s ruling, take out full page adds in the local small town paper barring the idiocy of his ruling, and I was going to keep that add running weekly until the end of his re-election campaign, and I was going to write monster checks to his opponents campaigns. She begged me not to because it would gut her practice in that small town.

I placed the add complete with direct quotes from the judge from the court recordings from the hearing, a picture of the judge, a fuzzed out picture of the Skid, and a mug shot of the Sperm Idiot and a facsimile of his arrest record with the bold print saying "This judge, forces this child, to spend time with this criminal waste of skin!!!" I got a call from our lawyer again begging me to withdraw the add before it ran in the next publication of the weekly paper. A relative of the Judge worked at the paper and called the Judge, who had his secretary call our former lawyer, who then called me begging yet again. I told her I would not run the add if the idiot Judge resigned his position on the bench immediately. }:) No deal. They begged again... so I told our lawyer to get a written statement from the judge that he would recuse himself from any future family court action we were part of in that jurisdiction. Deal. I kept the proof of the add just in case I had to run it on short notice. We ran into that judge a few times when we were in Sperm Land visiting my ILs over the years. I loved seeing the scowl form on his face when he recognized me after I would ask him if he had seen the Sperm Idiots latest addition to his brood of out of wedlock spawn by yet another underage or very young baby mama.

It was a similar story. Every judge, every time until all of them in that area learned that they had to be on their best game when we showed up in their courtroom. Not that we ever lost. We never did. We repeatedly handed the Sperm Clan their asses but that was because we never left anything to chance and we kept the idiots in the black robes and stupid little Fisher-Price wooden hammers nailed to the bench by their flappy slimey gonads. We did that after the first round by never going to court with a pen and paper when a Howitzer was better. Never bring a drooling idiot lawyer to a knife fight in court. Bring a Ninja, Killer, Brainiac, Legal Genius with a large caliber weapon. The weapon references are figurative of course.

Hire the best lawyer you can afford. Research, document, hire a PI to follow the opposition around and find every nasty little factual detail there is to find and pile it on the bench in front of the idiot in the black robes. Every time. Arrest records, statutory rape incidents, under the table income not reported on taxes or used in previous CS calculations, Sperm GrandPa's stable of mistresses, DipShitIot living rent free in the Sperm GrandParents rental property yet claiming he paid rent, etc, etc, etc....... Let no rock go unturned or anything the opposition says go uncontested. If they claim they are broke ask questions. When they answer ask more questions.

After that first round we shopped for a new attorney. We spoke with dozens of them. When we met with our killer shark ninja counselor it was a done deal after the first 15mins. For nearly 20 years he has been our attorney. We have used him for everything and referred many family members and friends to him. He never made a whole lot off of us because we did tons of leg work for ourselves but he has made plenty of money on our referrals.

After the first hearing never again did a judge harp on what a fine family they were and instead would close with a stern lecture to the Sperm Idiot and a long period of disgusted stares at the Sperm Clan members sitting behind the pouting Sperm Idiot.

Even then the rulings invariably had elements of idiocy because the Judges would not take the time to read all of the material submitted. They each freely said that.

So... the problem IMHO and experience is that the Judges choose to not do the job they are paid to do. Far too many of them are idiots.

Kids definately deserve the facts in an age appropriate manner. As they get older, they get more factual information. They need the facts to understand what is very often a very complex situation and to be able to be armed in order to protect themselves from manipulation by either side of their blended family. It becomes more critical as they get older.