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Submitted by Nana2 on Wed, 09/19/2012 - 2:28pm

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Well, my SD has left today for her half-sister's place for 3 weeks then she comes back for 2 weeks before shipping off to the army. I'm praying she makes it in the army but with her mouth, I doubt she will. She's got a bad attitude and has wrecked havoc in my DH's family. DH's sister and brother-in-law are not talking to us because of what she told them, mostly lies and her half-truths. Anyway, I'm doing a happy dance right now for the 3 week reprieve I have and am NOT looking forward to her coming back even if it is for only 2 weeks. If she doesn't make it in the army, she knows she's not coming back to stay with us. She can go to her half-sister's place because her half-sister has done everything possible to undermine us in the parenting dept. Her half-sister is 14 years her senior so she thinks she's the kid's mother instead of her sister. Go figure.

Anywho!!!! I'm glad and had to share this news with you. Now to try to repair our family and keep it in tack! She almost won in breaking up DH and I several times. Now we need to work on us.

Wish me luck!

Thanks guys for letting me vent to you all!

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 09/19/2012 - 2:32pm

I have a nephew who is 18. He caused SO much trouble for my sister and her husband...and their other 3 kids. Constant fighting and screaming... he lived to make everyone else miserable. He went in to the Navy a few months ago and is doing so well! It really knocked the attitude right out of him. I hope the same happens for your SD!

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Submitted by Orange County Ca on Wed, 09/19/2012 - 3:02pm

The military is used to handling people like that. Doing 50 pushups just for a smile when the Drill Instructer asks "Who are you looking at?" soon puts a quick end to it.

When she gets back keep a open mind. She may turn into someone you can abide by and maybe even grow to like. Far better then keeping her as a enemy. She'll know she has changed so don't feel like you're giving it or she won. She changed that's all.

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Submitted by Nana2 on Wed, 09/19/2012 - 3:06pm

Truly looking forward to that! She's in for 5 years as it is if she passes boot camp. If she doesn't pass boot camp, she is NOT welcome in my home! If/when she changes she's more than welcome to come and visit, etc. But for living with us, nope, have had my share of all I can take. She needs major overhauling. LOL
Thanks for your encouragement BSgoinon & Orange County Ca. Appreciate it!

I do have an open mind so hopefully this will be just what she needs!

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Submitted by 3_steps_ahead on Thu, 09/20/2012 - 11:17am

I'm truly hoping that the army straightens your SD out. My SD19 joined the army after leaving our household on very bad terms (had been threatening her younger half sister (BD9) and refusing to seek counseling for her problems among a whole host of other things). We didn't hear anything from her (thankfully) until about 8 weeks ago and the letter was nothing more than her blaming my husband, me and BD9 for all of her problems; accusing BD9 of all sorts of crazy things that weren't true of BD9, but were true of SD19's younger half sister from her mother's side - just absolute craziness.
Now, a friend of ours just found out via facebook that SD19 is scheduled to come back to our area on leave in the beginning of October - the day after BD9's birthday and 3 days before my birthday. Although BD9 wants nothing to do with SD19 because of the threats that she had made against her, SD19 is extremely intent on seeing her and I am fearful that her 2 weeks back in the area will have at least one day of causing an embarrasing, drama filled scene in our neighborhood. I am sure that although she's made sure to divide my husband's entire family with her lies that she'll sir the pot with them as well, but that I think I can handle more so than the possible threat to BD9's safety and well-being.

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Submitted by Nana2 on Fri, 09/21/2012 - 1:33pm

I am wishing you the best in October 3_steps_ahead! I know how drama can ruin families. SD did a good job on ours. Did get validation from one distant relative that it's not us but the SIL and BIL refuse to talk to us. So we're left in the dust. How horrible especially when you have parents that live just down the street and you can't go visit when SIL is over there. It makes it so uncomfortable. So we stay away. DH goes when SIL is not there. I prefer to stay away from it all. I'll call instead and visit via phone.

Anyway wishing you the best. let us know how it goes. Praying for you too!