I have a significant other who has one something of the age 6. I have three kids ages 11, 10 and 7. I've known my significant other for five years by his sister-in-law who was my best friend. We didn't really interact much but I know of them since then. Two years ago we started a relationship and now live together. There are plenty of times I love my family and all of us together there a few times when I hate it. My significant other seems to give into my stepsons every little comment, tantrum, etc. yesterday I told him to go clean his room and he did not like it so he started crying as if I had yelled at him or beat them up which I would never. my significant other said his son was scared of me and I made him cried and he was very uncomfortable at the end of the day he didn't and the cleaning his room he also stated how come I don't tell my kids the same thing and call my son "fat". Thank God my son wasn't there to hear. The argument escalated and he told me in front of his child I am not to tell him anything never again and that if I need to tell him to do something I should go through him first I didn't think it was such a big deal I didn't even think we would argue about this but we did. By the time it was for him to go back home to his moms house The kid didn't even say goodbye to me and my significant other reinstated and told him again on the way home no one is ever to make you feel uncomfortable. He then came home and told me that I am not his stepmother and that I should only be his friend. My only issue with this is we can't pick and choose when he wants me to be involved it's either he does or he doesn't I can do either or although I am annoyed about it it's something I don't want to argue about. I am going to feel uncomfortable in my own house from now on when he comes over because I'm not able to tell him anything.