I am the stepmother to four pretty great kids. I think of my stepchildren as my own and treat them as such. At this point, I have no biological children. I have been in the kids lives for almost two years and I love all of them very much. Three of the children are very young and have adjusted easily to the divorce, their mothers new husband and to me.
However, the oldest child is 12, almost 13. He is very moody. Somtimes we get along great and other times he acts like he can't stand me. He has started telling his BM that his dad would rather make me happy than spend one day with his kids....which is completely false! He tells her that I make unfair rules and punished him for no reason! AGAIN COMPLETELY FALSE!

Their father and I try to do family things with them all of the time. Sometimes we go out, play board games, or play outside, but it is never enough of the SS.

I am bent over completely backwards to try to have a good relationship with him, but I am always the one that get throw under the bus for everything. Anytime, he gets in trouble or his father and I make a decision he doesn't like he makes false accusations and says horrible things about me to his BM....which she believes.

Most of the time, I feel like this BM and I have a pretty good relationship considering the circumstances, but I can't tell her that her son is lying (because she obviously believes him over me).

I want to have a good relationship with everyone involved, but it is SO HARD to not take issue with things we hear from the BM, but I try to be the bigger person and do what is best for the children involved. And I REALLY want a good relationship with my SS, but it is hard with I feel like I am fighting him, the BM and the new stepdad (which gets to do the fun stuff with him all of the time instead of being the parent).

I am a really positive person and try to see the good in situation instead of complaining about it... but I really need some help with this one!