Lately I am feeling like I am just sitting back and letting my life take hold of me. My DH has had full custody of SD2.5 since she was 16 months old. We have been married and together a little before that. After the ugly custody battle finally finished, BM was given supervised visits because of her criminal charges and the original reason my husband sought full custody. BM is ordered to pay CS (which has never been seen) and pay all costs associated with the supervised parenting time. My SD has always referred to me as "mommy" and at such a young age we were advised by multiple child therapists to allow her to call me whatever was comfortable and not push either way. We in no way told her I was "mommy" or persuaded her to start calling me that. The last time BM had physical contact with SD was fathers day when she was 18 months old. SD does not recognize BM at all at this point. My DH has asked her to send pictures so we can show SD them and keep her involved in her life, but we have never received any pictures. For a few weeks when SD had just turned 2 she started calling in the evenings to say goodnight. SD does not recognize her voice and becomes upset when the lady on the phone refers to herself as mommy. Other than that, SD just loves talking on the phone, she is 2 of course she loves when there is actually someone on the other end of the phone talking back.
My point of all this is, I have become and more frustrated with BM lately. She has not called in over 2 months, and does not check up on SD at all. She is pregnant with another child and due next month, so I do understand that she is busy preparing for another child with her newest boyfriend. I get frustrated and angry because she doesn't seem to have anytime for her other daughter, the one that is already 2 and a half. I have done a damn good job raising her with my husband, and I am a stay at home mom for her. Why does BM not want anything to do with her daughter?!