Just a quick vent...

So my SD11 is grounded for refusing to do her chores pretty much every day. Her favorite excuse is "I forgot" even though it is something she is told to do every day.

Last night I officially lost it and told my DH he needs to be home to take care of his children because I can't do it anymore. I shouldn't be angry every day because of them but I am, and I need a serious break from it all before I lose my mind.

School hasn't even been in for a month yet and SS9 has already gotten marked down on his behavior reports, taken school supplies from class, and been in the principal's office for fighting.

I've been reading so many of the different blogs and forum posts on here, and some of you amaze me (in a good way). The idea of "don't do anything for the skids" sounds great but so unrealistic for me.

My H and I have been going at this as "a team" for over 6 years now. SKids' BM is not around at all, and my BD13's dad wasn't around much until this last year as he lived in a different state. I've been mom to everyone, met with nothing but resistance from skids, but that's just their nature, they don't treat their father much better. 

So a couple days ago, SD11 came downstairs as we were getting ready to play some UNO, and I look up and her face has this pinkish tinge to it. I ask her what happened to her face. She says she doesn't know. I said there is no way your face looks like that and you don't know what happened. So she then says when she was pooping that she grabbed her face because she was trying to remember something that her and BD13 were talking about. I told her that made absolutely no sense and that her story doesn't add up with the way her face looks. She just kept saying that was what happened.