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Im only the Stepmom!!

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Is it appropriate for the ex wife to include me (stepmom) in group text messages or emails with issues she is having with him. It can range from money (keep in mind he pays his child support & everything else he is obligated by law to pay) to the fact she feels he needs to spend more time with "their" kids (she finds out through mutual friends that we went on a vaca or just some random local trip & didn't invite "their" kids). I am furious & need help with how to respond in situations like this .....

THEY ARE BACK!!!!

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Ok, so the skids are coming back this weekend and I know I have stated this before in many of my blogs, but I am already starting to get anxiety and cringe!!!!!!
I was going to talk to my SO about this, but not sure how to bring it up or what to even say?? Is that even appropriate?? If so how would you approach it??

THEY ARE BACK!!!!

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Ok, so the skids are coming back this weekend and I know I have stated this before in many of my blogs, but I am already starting to get anxiety and cringe!!!!!!
I was going to talk to my SO about this, but not sure how to bring it up or what to even say?? Is that even appropriate?? If so how would you approach it??

THEY ARE BACK!!!!

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Ok, so the skids are coming back this weekend and I know I have stated this before in many of my blogs, but I am already starting to get anxiety and cringe!!!!!!
I was going to talk to my SO about this, but not sure how to bring it up or what to even say?? Is that even appropriate?? If so how would you approach it??

Monster or Not??

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Does anyone ever get to the point where they cringe when the skids are coming and hate coming home from work because you know they will be there?
Also, do you ever get to the point where your entire attitude changes for that weekend and literally want to lock yourself in your room until they leave?
What about you hate them being around their half brother because you dont want your child to pick up their bad habits? I feel like a monster ... am I? Sad

HELP!!!! ATTENTION NEEDED :(

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I NEED SOME ADVICE & OPINIONS ... LONG STORY SHORT BUT I HAVE BEEN WITH MY PARTNER FOR 5+ YEARS, HE HAS KIDS FROM HIS PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP. WE ALSO HAVE A KID TOGETHER AND OF COURSE WE LIVE TOGETHER AND GET THE KIDS ON THE DESIGNATED WEEKENDS. WHY IS IT FAIR TO MY CHILD THAT WHEN HE GETS THEM HE STATES THAT HE DOESNT SEE THEM EVERYDAY THEREFORE HE IS GOING TO DEVOTE ALL OF HIS ATTENTION TO THEM WHILE THEY ARE THERE AND THAT I SHOULDNT BE UPSET OR FIND ANYTHONG WRONG WITH THIS. PLEASE TELL ME THAT IM NOT OVER REACTING AND THAT THIS IS ABSOLUTELY WRONG - OR AM I????

Skids this weekend :/

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Ok, so the skids are coming this weekend. I usually get real bad anxiety come Friday afternoon when I get off work and have to go home! I have told my Fiance that I would rather not be there when he has his kids because of all the issues that arise when they are there. I told him I would go to my parents and then on sunday return once they go home @ 6:30. I have come to realize that marriage is not an option right now and probably wont be b/c of our different views so until our lease is up and we go our separate ways I would just rather stay away from that situation.

Hurtful Words

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My Fiance and I were arguing one evening about his children and how they are disciplined. I explained to him I feel left out when his kids are around and his response was that "He will NEVER love me as much as he loves his kids" and "he will NEVER put me FIRST" ---- of course this tore me up inside and I still cant seem to get those words out of my head & it has really put me in a different perspective about this relationship.
Any advice??

Trouble in "Paradise"

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I am engaged to a man w/ 2 kids (Boy & girl) & I have no kids of my own. In the beginning I tried my hardest to get the kids to like me and we did have a good relationship. I was raised in a strict household when it came to using your manners & eating properly, etc ... as me and my fiancé got more serious I noticed his little girl wasn't good with either of those and I took it upon myself to correct her each time she forgot to use her manners or eat like a slob (I would do this if I had my own children) lately he has told me I am to hard on them and are mean to them, etc.