Being a stepmom is really hard. My husband wants his kids involved in every activity possible which is great if he will pick them up from practice. He doesn't I have to do it all the time when I met him I told him I do not want to be a "soccer mom". I don't mind picking up my daughter because she communicates to me when she will have practice, while his kids tell him in advance and call me at the absolute last minute. We have all had discussions on communicating to me if they (his kids) need me to pick them up. They know if their dad is picking them up they don't have to tell me.