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It has been at least a week since my last blog...from feeling angry and hurt and just completely drained emotinally since my break-up. I haven't been able to write until today and now I'm feeling angry and upset again. I've been going through the motions of everyday life just trying to get through each day. Since my last post, I've spoken to my DBF whom I broke up with last week about how I feel and how I've been treated disrepectfully by him over his choices and "lack of boundaries" with his daughter.

IT'S OVER!

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It's over! I'm tired of being disrespected and treated in a manner that no one in a relationship should ever be treated! I just broke up with my DBF of 9 total years and there is no looking back....I feel like all that I've been through was a total waste of time that I can never get back. All the counseling...a waste...all the talking...a waste...and what am I left with? My heart is broken and I don't know how I will go forward from this point...
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GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!

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I am soooo upset right now, I can't see straight!! Everything has been pretty much calm regarding how my DBF has been spending Sundays with his BD's and spending Saturday's with me and my son. Well, last night one his Daughter's calls and tells him that she wants him to take her to a book fair today. I don't have a problem with switching days as long as I have notice. I've already made plans for us to go bowling and then go out to eat today. DBF tells me we can go earlier so he can still take daughter out.

WOW! WISH I HAD DONE THIS SOONER!!! LIFE IS SOOO MUCH BETTER NOW!

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I just had to write about what has happened since my last post! The last time I wrote that I had set my boundaries regarding my DBF's two daughter's behavior and that I would no longer "allow" them to be physically around me and my son. I really expected my DBF to tell me our relationship was over and move out...but low and behold...SURPRISE! He told me he would "do whatever it took to keep me and my son in his life". He is even showing more respect and graditude for us. WHY DIDN'T I DO THIS SOONER???! Why don't we set the ground rules immediately when SK's treat us disrepectfully?

I'M THE VICTIM! NO EMPATHY FROM DBF

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I just had to get this out or I feel like I'm going to explode! Went to counseling last night with live-in DBF. We began counseling over 1 1/2 ago. It has come to a point where I had to set a major boundary with his 2 daughters to not be around me or my son any longer. They live full-time with their BM and my DBF sees them and spends time with them on the weekends and during the week. The two daughters have been emotionally abusive towards me and my son for years.