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Fsd11 is having her first dance. Yes, a Jr high dance. A couple of weeks ago she asked my SO if he would take her shopping for a dress. He asked me what do you think? I said wouldn't Crazo want that moment with her daughter? He told her that she might want to ask her mom but that he would love to take her. Crazo has a history of not wanting to do things for fsd11. She said I don't think mom wants too, but squealed with delight that her dad would take her.

I am self destructing! What is wrong with me?

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My SO is amazing, honestly he is more than I ever thought was possible to have in a relationship. So why do I keep pushing him away? We have been together for almost 3yrs. He wants to marry me. Wants to spend his life with me. But I am having problems living in the world of today. I am so happy and then I will start going from a-z of what CAN happen and then I run and push him away.

My daughter (30) loves him and his 2 kids and have accepted them with open arms.

His kids love me, are respectfully, are easy kids.

Ex and CS?

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In the state of Florida does my SO have to report if he has an increase in income, so that his child support can be modified?

Or does the EX have to request a review of the CS, which I understand in Florida she can do every 3 years.

Thanks for your help! We have been looking on line but do not see a definitive answer.

Date Night! No fskid weekend! I am so glad.

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The fskids aren't bad they really are pretty good kids. But I love my alone time with my SO.

We are going to eat Thai and then going to the symphony. Afterwards we go for a drink and desert at this cute little bistro we found.

I love the no skid weekends. One of the best things we did as a couple 3yrs ago was get season tickets to the symphony. It is fun to get a dressed up have a nice dinner and intimate conversation. A special date night.

What do you all do to make sure you get alone time with your man?

BF and I just finished the questions from HELL!

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My counselor gave SO and I, 800 questions to discuss before getting married or re married.

We both kept putting them off, not really wanting to do them. In the back of my mind I thought if I was honest (which sometimes I am too honest: meaning to direct) and SO was honest ( he is, and he doesn't tell me what I want to hear which I love about him) our relationship would end.

I thought the discussions about money, skids, retirement, etc...would just be too hard.

The judge saw Crazo for what she is! A crazy BM and ordered her to take parenting classes!

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So just called, It is the best case scenario. The Judge told BM she needed to get rid of her anger and start putting her children first. He told her she had to take a parenting class and gave her a month to sign up for it.

He clarified the holiday's and told them that there would be no changes to the CO unless both people agreed to it, then it had to be put in writing and signed off by both of them.

SO is at court this morning. Wish us well. Crazo just doesn't get it!

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SO finally has a court date from Crazo's Christmas Eve incident last year.

If you pray, say a prayer for him and think positive thoughts for us. It is so hard not being able to plan holidays, vacations, or even day to day events with the skids because crazo refuses to stick to the CO.

We are hoping the judge looks at her and says this is what the CO says and unless the TWO of you agree to a change, then this is the way it is.

Finally told SO no more changes to the schedule! Absolutely no exceptions! It is time to choose.

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I was on the phone with my daughter a couple of days ago and she said do you think you all could come up here for Thanksgiving.
I said I don't know what we are going to do for Thanksgiving sweetie it depends on when SO has the kids....

Oh my! Did those words really come out of my mouth. Yes! They did. I told her I needed to go and would call her back. I sat at my desk, realizing what had just taken place.

Really? Everyweek end?

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"Crazo" is at it again. She wants FDH to have the kids Friday-Monday every week. We live in FL where there is no joint custody. So we have them every other weekend and every Wednesday.

Is she out of her mind? Really. I would go crazy if I had them every weekend. I enjoy adult time.

I have a demanding job that I love, but when the weekends come I am ready to play!

We told crazo we could take them on weekdays too, if she wanted but not every weekend. She said NO only the weekends!

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