Long story short, SD has been splitting time between bd and bm all her life...she is 11 now and has had problems in the last year with her bd to the point that on a Tuesday morning she would wake up sick to her stomach that she had to go to her bd...ON FRIDAY! She finally snapped at school one day and told a counselor that he hits her, and punishes her all the time for sticking up for her mom when he makes fun of her. She is not allowed to acknowledge our family at all and has gotten in trouble for it (he punished her for writing a sentence in her HW about her Mom and "new" family).