So i've been having a problem with SD for as long as I can remember when it comes to doing things in the house. No not chores like most kids her age should be doing (lets take it easy and not expect too much) but simple things like turning off the light when you leave your room, not leaving the tv on, turning off the radio/computer when you leave, not leaving the door open when you go out (open as in my 2 year old almost walked out of the house open).

So SD has been watching as BM and I are doing well in therapy and not liking it. She sees that BM is not going to let her dictate how we live anymore, calling her out on her lies/bs and actually reinforcing it with punishment (so proud of my wife). So of course SD is really pissed at me because she told her BM "You never did this before you were married to him!" So she has been trying at every turn to try and undermine us by doing what she's been told not to do and now going that extra mile to make it a huge fight.

I have this little issue with approaching my wife about the topic of talking about SD on the weekends she's not here. I dont mind a casual conversation honestly, but every weekend she is not here I feel like it's a vacation for me and while I'm sure my wife misses her, I don't really share that feeling so i'm sure that is why she does this, but I really don't feel the need to talk about SD or make plans for SD or shop for SD when she's not here. She dominates most of our time when she is here so I feel like it's a much welcomed break when she's gone.

Wife and I have been doing very well in therapy and I am starting to see some progress in DWs abilities to handle SD properly and not fall victim to her guilty parenting. I know it will be a long road but I feel like we are finally on the right path...of course some old habits die hard (yesterday she punished her and she wasn't allowed outside, only to have 10mins of badgering by SD change her mind to let her just on the front wrap around porch) but all in all truly amazing turn around by my wife.