need some advice....

How do most people do holidays? As some of you may know, my BD4 has been with me since she was born, her dad has been in prison from my pregnancy until April of this year. They have begun EOW visits and it's going okay, she is adjusting, although she is not too happy about going there. He and I have not discussed the upcoming Thanksgiving or Christmas holidays...and I know this is the point where I have to start sharing her......lol.......but it's hard. What's "NORMAL" and how should I bring up an arrangement to him? THANKS!

But I have read so many posts about disengaging. I have noticed that my BF has somewhat disengaged from my BD(4), and I can tell y'all that if this doesn't change, I am DONE with the relationship. I do not see how anyone can have a happy, healthy, functioning home when the parents of the house diengage from the children. It doesn't work for me. Am I wrong or just not getting it?

I want to find a job working from home. I miss my daughter and want to spend more time with her. I feel like I could enrich her little mind WAY more than they do at daycare, but when I get off work I am EXHAUSTED and need to relax/wind down.

I may be feeling this way because FH has been out of work since June. And it's starting to get to me. I have so much around the house I want to do, and no time to do it! So frustrating.

I am having some major issues here. A little background info: My daughter began visitations EOW with her dad when he got out of prison in April. Everything has begun to transition with her being okay over there on his weekend visits without her freaking out and wanting to come home. However, I feel like he stepped out of prison, right onto a high horse.
1. He doesn't think she is clean enough when she comes home from school (on his fridays that he picks her up).

~she is a 4 year old kid at daycare - why would she come home sparkling clean...???