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marital or family counseling?

has anyone sought therapy for the issues they are dealing with in regards to their skid situation? tensions remain very high in our house, and nothing has been resolved since the whole ss17 tore up my garden/my birthday fiasco. i have basically withdrawn from dh and ss, and have been doing a lot of thinking. dh and i talked last night and i told him that i can't live like this, and we really do need to make some changes or we're walking down a very bad road towards divorce. he agreed, but insisted that we find a family therapist and that ss17 attend with us as a family.

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holding on to a stick

i got my hair cut this morning, and went to a new person/salon to get it done. i wind up trying new places all the time, because apparently its really easy to butcher my pixie cut, and i end up looking like a angry toddler. so i meet her and we talk, and of course the conversation turns to family....and i tell her a bit about mine. she says i look tired and down, which i do.

update

so dh came home last night from work and we talked briefly. he admitted that he is under a lot of stress, is very tired, and is short tempered. he is working two jobs right now, while also studying for a series of work exams. i understand this, but its still taking me some time to forgive his words and actions. i'm just hurt, more than anything. he said that he loves me and that we need to find a therapist. i agreed to this, as i love him too, and things are out of control. we sat outside together and watched the meteor shower, in peace and quiet-no talking at all.

today is my birthday

i have always tried to make birthdays and holidays something special in our home. day to day life can be frustrating and stressful, and its nice to not only have something to look forward to, but to celebrate a loved one's special day and make them feel good. i guess i am getting a divorce for my birthday. the day i met dh, i knew that i would marry him. we have that kind of connection. we still talk about our first date and how we both knew. how everything fit together so well, and how we finally found the person we had been searching for our whole lives.

"its over"

those are the lovely words dh told me tonight after the umpteenth argument about ss17. i had disengaged, previously, and dh said it was hurting him to know that he was like a "single parent" living with his wife. so we tried this again. we talked and talked about his guilt-parenting, how it effects the whole family, our own baggage, etc. we had family meetings, i said that i could not live in a house any longer where i was the maid, chauffeur, chef, etc and ss17 had no responsibilities at all. he does nothing but play video games and text his friends.

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