Well I had a talk with DH last night. I asked him if he ever told SD20 to stop starting crap. His reply was "I just didn't reply". So I told him next time she says anything about me he needs to tell her to stop. He say 'why should I have to say anything"? So I explained that no comments to her are basically acceptance of what she is doing and how she is acting. She's never going to stop unless he makes her realize he isn't going to put up with it. She needs to feel the reprocushions of what she is doing. I shouldn't be the only one that gets upset.