DH caved and got the plane tickets for the date "SS" (read BM) wanted. DH hasn't spoken to SS in 6 weeks- he won't return a text or answer a call. DH's Email to her:

See below dates and times locations of travel for our son for Christmas vacation for our son this year. 

 

I would still love to have our son out for thanksgiving this year since you are cutting me short two days over the winter break. Please let me know by tomorrow so I can buy the thanksgiving plane tickets if I can have our son for thanksgiving this year 2020; yes or no.

 

Last night DH and I were talking about SS15 and dates for Christmas. BM never responded to his last email saying that he would be willing to give up 2 days of Christmas break in exchange for Thanksgiving. So out of 5 emails he sent asking for her confirmation of dates she only responded once with "SS only wants to come out from 20th-27th because he has a dance and basketball practice". 

DH sent the 3rd email about Christmas dates last night with our "I will take your nonresponse as consent" line with a deadline of 5pm today.

Around 2am she responded stating that SS wants to attend a school dance and that he has basketball practice that would conflict with the 1st and lat day we wanted him here. Essentially cutting DH 2 days short. (How she knows basketball practice before the start of the season, or if it is even happening, who knows!)

This past weekend DH and I took a road trip. We would get to an area, get a hotel and uber around to breweries- it is kind of our thing. We were at one, we start talking about my kids poor SM who was coming up on being 2 weeks late and how miserable she is. As a joke we sent her twister to play with the kids to get the baby out- the pictures she sent back were priceless BTW! LOL.