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DH sending a letter

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There is something very important that I need to discuss with you and I feel very strong about what I am going to say and ask. First off I am so lost on what to think about you and the things you keep choosing to do. Since we divorced you have been a downward spiral and have subjected our kids to all of it, that’s not okay. I was never aware of how bad off you were or how bad you made life for the kids until I filed for full custody. After I filed for full custody I learned so much and it broke my heart to know the kind of life my kids were living with you.

Advice and thoughts needed/wanted

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My skids haven't seen their mom since November, because of numerous reasons. Couple of the reasons are one she is court ordered to have supervised visitation at a parenting center or her mom can and she was in jail from middle of December to the middle of February.

She is back in jail and the kids want to see her because they haven't seen her in about 4 months. We are planning on taking the kids to see her Sunday at the County Detention Center. Has anyone ever had to do this? What are your thoughts on it?

Drama Drama Drama...UGH

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Where to start?!?!? Let's start with the weekend of February 21st. DH and I had a little get away planned, the skids staying at his mom's. DH & I had only been at the resort for a couple of hours and DH gets a call from his mom stating BM called and said she was going to drive 2 1/2 hrs to her house to see the kids. MIL told her that DH would have to approve of that, BM said no DH doesn't have to know. MIL told her the kids will tell him and I am not going to lie to my son.

Heart Breaks

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OSS has and is having some emotionally issues that cause him to hold his bowel movements which in turn causes him to have accidents. OSS is 10 and in the 3rd grade.

DH and I thought we had gotten through to him, because it had been almost 2 months with no accidents. Then this weekend 2 accidents, one on Saturday and one on Sunday. He tired to hide Saturday's accident but I found it when I was sorting dirty clothes to wash.

Bat Shitt Crazy and CS

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DH's mom took the kids for us on Saturday and kept them until Sunday afternoon, so that DH and I could have a romantic evening at a lovely resort. We tried having the kids call BM while we driving the 2 1/2 hour drive to MIL's house, but she wasn't with her boyfriend (apparently she doesn't have a phone of her own) so we just told him that we will just have the kids call the next day when we pick them up. Later that afternoon when we had already checked into the resort she text DH asking for his mom's number so she can talk to the kids. Well DH being nice gave her the number.

Stupid Good Heart Got In The Way

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First of all before I start this I know in my head BM is really never gonna get better and she's always gonna be who she is, but I have a tendency to follow my heart and hope for the best.

Yesterday BM calls to talk to the kids, no big deal. As she is talking to the kids she ask to talk to me, so I get on the phone, I know how to put my big girl panties on and speak to another adult like them or not, our conversation didn't last long because the kids wanted to talk to her again. So I happily gave the phone back to the kids. The kids got off the phone with her and all was good.

I Hate Snow Days

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I was never meant to be a stay at home mom, no matter how much a complain about going to work after the weekends I'm ready to go back into the adult world. We have no where near the amount of snow Boston has, but we currently have 5.5 inches with another 1.5 inch possibly coming tonight. So that means no school, I am guessing for the rest week. I had to stay home with the kids yesterday and that was after caring for them all weekend because DH is on 2nd shift. Now we have it worked out that I will work from 7 am to 1 pm, and then he will go to work.

O/T - Weekend Getaway

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I can't wait for the 21st to get here. DH's mom is taking the kids and my ExH has offered to keep DS a weekend longer. DH and I are heading out of town for Saturday (21st) and half of Sunday (22nd). Made reservations at 5 star hotel that will include their romance package. Planning on hitting up an art museum and maybe a race car museum, dinner, drinks and some much needed adult fun time.

OMG I'm overly excited and we so need this and deserve this....YAY!!!

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