Me: (in a whisper as we walk into the mall)"honey, you need to rub your makeup in a little on this side, you have a little line"

SD: Oh, ok...thanks...

Me: "I didn't hurt your feelings did I?" (very sincerely)

SD: No, of course not.

Fast Foward to a counseling appointment 6 months later.

Counselor: "SD, why don't you tell SM some of your concerns"

SD: "Sometimes you make me feel really bad about myself"

Me: "Honey, I would never want to do that. Can you give me an example?"

SD: (Without hesitation) "The time you told me I had a make up line"

Me: "I wasn't trying to be ugly, i just figured you would rather I tell you than having others see you, like i would want you to tell me if i had spinach in my teeth."

SD: That's different, I looked in the mirror and knew how i looked when i left the house, so it wasn't like something that just happend, i don't want you to comment on how I look"

Prologue - We have now had 4 arguments that stem from the makeup comment, she has cried and screamed an carried on about how badly this exchange hurt her! I finally told her that I had apologized to her for this at least twice and that i never meant to hurt her and that she needed to make the decision to either accept my apology or not, but that I would not apologize for that again, nor would i entertain another conversation about it. She said that she could forgive me, but she would never forget.

I may be a professional woman now, but there was a time that I was a pretty rough gal...She may have to see that side of me one day.