Briefly, I have 3 kids with my first wife, ages 24 to 29.  None are married and I don't have any grandkids (yet).  I have what I feel is a good relationship with my 3.  Current wife has 2 daughters with her first husband, ages 14 & 15.  We have been together as a couple and as a family for over 10 years so I have been around as stepdad to my wife's daughters for over 10 years.  My wife has a very rocky relationship with her first husband, she shares 50% custody with him.  Oldest stepdaughter has also had a rough relationship with her father and has started to stay with us far more than