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Stay together for the "family"?

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I found a forum post that H put up on a site we both use (under an alias that was really obvious to me), he said in the post that BM was the actual love of his life, and that he was only still with me for the sake of not breaking up the family.

I brought the post up to him, and he's claiming it's not "really" what he meant, that actually he only meant that BM was the most significant relationship he had only because they were together so long, and that he loves me the same just differently...

I can't get the post out of my head though, it's tearing me up inside.

H doesn't have the same feelings for our DS as he does for SS...

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H admitted in therapy the other day that he doesn't feel the same way about our DS as he does about SS :? I had suspicions this might happen due to how he was acting during the pregnancy, but I'd really hoped once he met his baby it would change, guess not.

Our relationship is basically non existent now, we have no intimacy, and he acts like it's a chore to spend time with me. I don't know if I should try to sort this out, if we can come back from it...

Need advice on approaching a sensitive topic in a caring way so as not to start a disagreement.

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I have not been on here in a while, H and I have been going to couple's counselling and our relationship has reached a point where it's not great but it's okay, at least okay enough that we are trying to put our issues aside for a couple months so we can both be involved with our baby, who will be here in one week.