I'm so glad I found this site...I've been so stressed and upset for a long time. My heart goes out to all the step-parents of more than one skid. I have a SD11, who lives with us full-time, she always has. I've been her "mom" for over 4 years. SD only has phone contact with her BM, although she lives 5 miles away, and has no physical visitation-this tells you what kind of person BM is-it's been this way for a long time.