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Blessings: a recap of the journey after I left Ex H....

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I have been reading many of the tales of heartbreak and break up and my heart goes out to you. Yet there is hope and In this blog I hope I am able to share a little of it.

When I married my ExH I did so like may of you, in love, defending him to my own shadow, putting myself in the background of a relationship that was obviously damaging to me.

He had a son, a Bm and his own demons. I chose to be positive about the BM and the son until constant contact became worrisome. Like many, he also experienced a period where he wasn't working and I was footing all the bills.

Living the Fabulous Single Life and how being a Divorcee agrees with me!

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It has been almost 2 months since I become a divorcee. In all it has been fantastic! I have become more ballsy and believe it or not I even look younger!!!!

Some of you may not remember my story because some are new. But I was stuck in a pretty bad place with a husband who was verbally abusive, a BM who tried to control my home (without the tried cause she did control it) and with unsupportive in laws. My former stepson was a sweetheart but the situation made things so bad I could barely look at him.

A Goodbye of Sorts and a Heartfelt Thanks

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As of 10:05 am yesterday I am officially a divorcee. I am tremendously happy that it is over. As I am no longer a stepparent and won't have much to contribute on that front, I may just visit here to warn unsuspecting victims if their situations seem similar to what mine was.

To all of you ladies who choose to remain in the life, I greatly admire your strength and determination, as stated before, this is not a life for me.

I don't have the devotion or patience of a martyr.