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Submitted by Onefootout on Wed, 04/24/2013 - 11:39am

Saw my SS16 wearing his Star Wars Storm Trooper Hoodie as he rode his bike to school this morning. Mask completely covering his face. It was really cold. So I know why he pulled the mask down.

SS16 said he used to pull the mask over and stand in the corner of the hallway at school until teachers and students complained. He tells me every time he tries to hang out with his buddies they tell him they are busy.

Can't imagine why. I guess I have lots more weekends of SS staying at home alone to look forward to.

Here's a pic of what he looks like:

Gee, thanks SS for showing me how to start the dishwasher! Couldn't have done it without you.

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Submitted by Onefootout on Tue, 04/16/2013 - 7:26pm

SO is out of town, SS' grandparents are visiting and "babysitting" awkward immature SS16. Grandma cooked a wonderful dinner for us. And I helped her finish loading the dishwasher while SS stood by and did nothing. Grandma needed help finding things in our kitchen. I got the soap pellets, which SS was in a hurry to show how he knew where they were, but wouldn't get them, just directing me and grandma. I put soap pellet in dishwasher and noticed SS16 was hovering over me.

Credit where credit is due

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Submitted by Onefootout on Mon, 04/15/2013 - 6:57am

SO's parents are in town this week. Last night, SO recounted a parenting story involving Ss16. SO must have asked SS to do some chores or something or step up his personal hygiene. Not sure.

So SS said, 'Fine, I'll just move back in with mom!'

SO replied 'okay, I'll help you start packing your bags.'

Dismayed SS:' that's not right!'

SO: yes, it's right, I called your bluff.

And the other day I heard SO yell to SS, who was griping about doing some chores, 'you can move out anytime now.'

Same recipe: SO vs. SM -- disengaging backfiring

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Submitted by Onefootout on Thu, 04/04/2013 - 10:18pm

I previously wrote about how I've stopped cooking for SS16. When I was cooking for him, however, I made pulled pork that SS and SO absolutely loved. Did SS ever acknowledge me or thank me, or do anything? No. He only grunted with a mouth full of food: "It's good." And only after SO prompted him several times.

So now that I'm no longer cooking, SO wanted to make the same dish. I found the recipe for him and he's working on it now. It's a crockpot recipe. It actually takes a little time to prep if you sear it and everything.

Definitely never cooking or grocery shopping for SS16 ever again!

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Submitted by Onefootout on Tue, 04/02/2013 - 8:44pm

Yes, I'm in that club now where the skids turn their noses up at SMs cooking, but have no problem eating other people's cooking.

So at first I thought SS wouldn't eat my cooking because a lot of it had beans in it like chili and tortilla soup. And according to SO, SS doesn't like beans.

SS was at a school event tonight, he came home and said, oh I had some chili tonight. It was his friends' mom's chili. I asked SS, you had chili? Yes. And it had beans? Yes. And to add insult to injury SS has to say, "Dad, we need to get you in the chili cook-off."

Dinner rules

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Submitted by Onefootout on Sat, 03/30/2013 - 12:56pm

I'm learning from practice and from this site, if I want change I have to change my own behavior. Since my blowup with SO last weekend I've tried to think of ways I can assert myself more, and not seem like a mean cold-hearted bitch.

I don't always like to eat dinner with SO and SS, not everyday. SO hated this. And told me he didn't care if I ever ate dinner with him again. Two days later I'm getting a text: "kabobs tonight if you like." So instead of refusing to eat with him I replied with three rules I created for family dinner time:

If you were to hang up a plaque in your home about stepparenting, what would it say?

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Submitted by Onefootout on Sat, 03/30/2013 - 11:23am

SO has a ton of signs and plaques about cars, airplanes and his service in the Army in his mancave and in his office.

Maybe this is weird, IDK, I want to get a sign or plaque that says something like "Beware of Evil Stepmother." And the next time SO does the stepmom beatdown I want to bring it out and display it. Kind of my own little protest.

A lot of you have clever sayings at the end of your posts, which I love, and I think they would make great fridge magnets or little plaques.

WTF moments with SO

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Submitted by Onefootout on Sat, 03/23/2013 - 3:15pm

I just wrote a huge blog entry and am trying to break this up into separate entries to make it easier to read. I'm at the end of my rope, again, I was here a month ago. Now I'm considering moving out again.

Here is something that SO said to me in our last fight.

This is not working sorry to say

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Submitted by Onefootout on Sat, 03/23/2013 - 3:00pm

Just had a huge blow up with SO. He yelled to SS that he needs to clean his bathroom because grandma and grandpa are coming in 2 weeks. I was standing right there. He then walks past me. I stopped him and asked him why they were coming. SO says he's leaving town for a business trip for a week and he needs them to stay with SS16.

I'm not washing dishes

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Submitted by Onefootout on Tue, 03/19/2013 - 1:42pm

I've gradually been washing fewer and fewer dishes as a way to disengage because I am not allowed to establish any house rules. My SO says only if he agrees to the rule, which he often does not. When I try to have a talk about establishing house rules, we end up fighting. He's afraid if he gives into me now, we'll go down the slippery slope of him becoming whipped, and me controlling everything.

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