I have a theory about mini wives whether it be SDs or SS--as in my case. I think a lot of times the dads like to feel like they are being fought over. Especially by their kids. They like being something to compete for. And I think a lot of dad's either tacitly or openly encourage their kids to be mini wives.

After two months of being out of step life I realized my ex probably enjoyed being caught in the middle between me and his son. He said it stressed him out and maybe it did on some level, but I mean when he feels caught in the middle, that means he's at the center of it all.

I've left my now ex-SO. As I write this I'm sitting in my new apartment, by myself. I moved out two weeks ago.

I cleared out the last of my things from SO's house last weekend and that's the last we've talked.

SS17 walked into his bedroom a few minutes ago and who did he find? Me, lying on his bed surfing the web. So here's how it went. Told him, hey, SS17, don't mind me, I'm just hanging. He told me he thought it was kind of weird me being in his bedroom. I said, you think? Does it feel weird and kind of awkward? He responded, yeah. And he was none too pleased.

SS17 goes to his dad, and of course, SO says he's staying out of it, that it's between me and SS17. Typical.

SS is now 17, still as clingy as ever to his dad. I've been watching the two of them in the kitchen while SO makes dinner. SS17 acts like he's on one of those child leashes connected to his dad.

I'm sitting at the kitchen table, and decided to time how long SS can stay at least three feet away from his dad before he has to start clinging again. At times he maxes out at a minute, other times, he can hold out for 20 seconds before he has to be right on top of his dad.

The only time SS moves away into the living room is when his dad is standing near me.