I am pretty sure that dh has severe sleep apnea. I've been telling him for years to tell his Dr....he's blown me off. He finally mentioned it and the Dr says that he almost certainly has it. We've been waiting for weeks for his sleep study to diagnose it and get some treatment.

I hope that this is a real turning point for us. If he can actually get a solid nights sleep at night then he will be up and available to deal with the skid crap more. He wont be sleeping all day everyday. He wont be as irritable and crabby.

Since the last blow up over showering dh has been relatively on the ball. He has been making sure they shower at least twice a week. Not what I call enough, but not too bad.

I got a promotion at work in January so I can now afford to set up a savings plan of some sort for my two boys. Dh is categorically against saving for the kids futures. I've asked him repeatedly to set up accounts for the skids (before we had our own) and he says no. I've asked him since we had our own to set up for all the kids and we can both contribute and he says no. So now I am setting up for just my two. No way I am saving for kids that aren't even mine if dh won't contribute too.

These kids are literally expected to put effort into nothing.

I wash dry and fold the clothes....they throw them on the floor and dh has no problem with it.

They eat like animals and leave the table with food all over the place. They eat with their hands and talk with food in their mouths. They can sit at the table and chat/fight/fool around for half an hour before dh says anything.

Their rooms are pig styes even after being told to clean and dh never checks.

Toothpaste all over the sink, no one ever wipes it up.