Advice about MIL and BM
So in general, I do like my MIL. She's not a bad person and doesn't do anything with ill intentions. However, she is way, way too nice. When we were visiting (out of state) this summer, bm called and threw a tantrum that MIL didn't call her for her birthday- so mil sang to her. Things like that.
But I feel like MIL is too nice and/or doesn't like me. Same trip, she still had pictures of dh and bm up- sil told her mom to take them down and she did. DH asked his family to take her of facebook almost 2 years ago and they did.
She just re-added bm though. It pisses me off because there are pictures of my son on there and neither she nor sd17 is supposed to have access to them (dh and i lock ours down super tight). This on the cusp (like yesterday) of BM admitting she called children and youth on me (said there were bruises on my son- yeah right) and admitting it was just for fun is just too much for me.
I really just want to delete mil of facebook, but that will cause drama so I'm waiting till dh gets home to discuss it with him.
His mom is coming up this summer though (for the birth of dh and my second child) and now I really don't want her here. I know she's going to end up seeing bm while here and I just don't want to deal with it.
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Unfortunately, yes I do think
Unfortunately, yes I do think it would cause a lot of drama. DH's mom is younger and likes to think she's "hip." But I do know it will hurt her feelings. I will probably end up deleting her, but I do want to discuss it with dh before deleting her because his mom will end up calling him upset at the very least.
I have no problems with them
I have no problems with them being civil. Phone calls, understandable. But in our case, bm is not much of a "mom." She sees ss13 MAYBE once every 6 weeks. BM has also physically assaulted both dh and I in front of their kids (while I was pregnant), so I personally don't see the need to be overly nice.
DH should man up and tell his
DH should man up and tell his mother: 1) BM assaulted you and 2) reported you unjustly to authorities. Both are extremely hostile actions so she needs to choose, DH or BM.
Dh has. So has FIL. Actually,
Dh has. So has FIL. Actually, fil I know for a fact has went off on her a few times about it. She lays low and then goes back to trying to be bm's friend. So I'm just done, at this point.
I think I will just delete her since I'm getting pissed and give dh a heads up as soon as he gets home. He wouldn't be able to talk to her at work anyway.
This on the cusp (like
This on the cusp (like yesterday) of BM admitting she called children and youth on me ... and admitting it was just for fun
IMHO if you have a good relationship with your MIL, explain to her that you understand she is trying to foster a cordial relationship with your DH's EW for the sake of her grandchildren but you need to tighten up security on FB to protect your DH (her son), yourself, and your mutual child (her grandchild) because of the incident above. Tell her you are sorry but you need to unfriend her so that the EW won't have access to any of your family's personal information.
No not her own child- my son
No not her own child- my son with dh. Her child (and dh's)- sd17- as well as bm is who I don't want seeing pictures of my child.