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O/T- 2 under 2, advice/experience!

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For bio moms with kids close in age, do you have any advice for the first days/weeks/months?

I only have 6 weeks till my due date and I'm starting to get nervous. DS is 17 months. He's really bright for his age, but obviously a very young toddler. He's also not used to sharing mom at all since I stay at home. He's a total momma's boy.

I want to help him have a smooth adjustment (as much as possible, anyway). Anything you'd care to share?

One Day Into Summer

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And I'm loosing my mind as predicted. Dh had told ss13 he was supposed to help around the house since we're moving in a week and have a lot to do.

Did he? Of course not. The kid can't even put a glass in a dishwasher. Instead he slept till 4:30.

Then, he is supposed to do 5 math problems (quick, easy multiplication/division) before he can go out. watch tv, whatever. This is simply because the kid is extremely lazy and at almost 14 is at a 3rd grade level in math and spelling and a 4th grade level in other subjects. He is smart, but lazy.

Advice about MIL and BM

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So in general, I do like my MIL. She's not a bad person and doesn't do anything with ill intentions. However, she is way, way too nice. When we were visiting (out of state) this summer, bm called and threw a tantrum that MIL didn't call her for her birthday- so mil sang to her. Things like that.

But I feel like MIL is too nice and/or doesn't like me. Same trip, she still had pictures of dh and bm up- sil told her mom to take them down and she did. DH asked his family to take her of facebook almost 2 years ago and they did.

Those with bio children with SO and steps

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Do you consider your children siblings of your steps (if they are half siblings)? Obviously I know my boys are 1/2 siblings of dh's first children, but I have a really hard time feeling like that.

I would be so ashamed if my children were like his first children. I mean really, I have a 13 ss who can barely read and they are all immature assholes for lack of a better word. Plus I obviously have no maternal connection to the skids so I have a really hard time with dh/others saying bs1 has 2 big sisters and a brother.

Prank calls from sd17 and friends

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Yep. All because bm didn't like that I shut her (bm) down when she texted me to start drama. Obviously the mature adult thing is to have your child come to your defense. This is pretty standard from her.

This time she called from a blocked number and dh was home. He lit into her. It was absolutely priceless and I was so proud of him, especially when he told bm if this continued she did not need to pick ss13 up.

I just wish an almost 18 year old and 40 year old could grow up. That will never happen, but I am so glad dh doesn't put up with their games.

Pretty sick of SS and DH right now

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SS13 was grounded for a month (has about 2 weeks left) due to being a bully. Cursing at kids, adults, and shoving another boy in the neighborhood. DH told him he was to be reading, doing chores, or doing homework and that's it. Yeah right- had to remind DH this morning of grounding because he was trying to let SS13 watch a movie. DH is horrible with grounding, the kid has done approximately 6 chores in 2 weeks.

What's going on here

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SD 18 is moved out. With her grandparents, but not my problem anymore thank God.

Now it's just ss13. DH may have finally had some light shed, partially on him. He is being tested for a potential learning disability, and his teacher, dh, and I each had to fill out a form about his behavior. I have been telling dh forever now that ss13 is way too immature for his age (all 3 of his with bm are honestly). Anyway, his teacher said he is severely immature for his age- she only rated him severe on a few, major issues. It made dh start to think it's not just me being mean.

BM, You Deserve Mother of the Year

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BM maybe gets the skids every 5-6 weekends. But I ask everyone weekend, just to be sure. 1 so she can never say we don't give her the option and 2 because she has shown up to "surprise" us before and I wanted to ring her neck.

So, I texted her.

Me- Are you getting the kids this weekends?
Her- No, only because I've got plans to go on a date.

Literally, word for word. It's so nice where her priorities lay.

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