Take. Legal. Action.

Keep those texts. You have a case for harrassment, at the very least.

And don't respond to her. She wants a reaction. This probably won't make her stop because she sounds too crazy to let anything go, which is why you should...

Take. Legal. Action.

i would take legal action.

screw what he says. too bad if ift means SD knows her mom is a nut. these are REAL threats...so what, if she actually snaps one day and harms you...THEN BF will feel bad for who? you or his SD?

you need to protect you.

First, shut down your FB privacy settings. And defriend her.

Second, block her number and her email.

Third, get a restraining order on her.

Fourth, file criminal harrassment charges. Who cares if her parents are rich? Evidence is evidence...and if you kept copies of all of this...you have more than enough to get her convicted of criminal harrassment.

Think of this...yoru BF who allegedly loves you would rather you be continually harrassed abnd for yout o suffer, than for it to stop...just so his kid does not feel bad? YOu think this kid does not KNOW mom is nuts?

you can block her from texting and calling you. Save all that, and if your bf doesnt want to do anything, tell her your gonna file a report and have her arrested.. btw, Thats EXACTLY what my bfs ex said to me all the time when she got my number.. ALL TALK!

I would absoulutely start legal action. Family money or not...she'll have a record. Money can't take that away. That way, as she continues, there will be a legal trail following her. I can assure you from the way this woman sounds to be, it wouldn't be the first time SD was embarrassed by her mother. She'll get over it, & she'll learn that harrassment & threats aren't appropriate, & they don't get you your way.

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You're doing everything right! Don't respond to her. Besides fanning the flames, it will also make her that much more frustrated that you don't respond or take her words to heart. Save everything like you've been doing. If she ever does cross the line, you will have all the evidence you need. I wouldn't block her from anything, though. Keep the evidence coming in and keep saving it all. She'll get herself in serious trouble when it's all said and done. And keep in touch with your cop friend. He's your best friend right now.

Take legal action! If your DH doesn't back you up, too bad!

1. Download Call Blocker Professional. It's about 5 bucks and allows you to block any call from a restricted, no caller id, or private number. It picks up and hangs up instantly and they can't even leave a voicemail.

2. Save all those texts. Print them and take them to a lawyer and for a few hundred dollars have the lawyer write a cease and desist letter with copies of the emails attached. Have the lawyer mention in the letter that the next step will be a civil harassment suit and a restraining order.

3. DON'T RESPOND.

Good luck. Been there... it's ugly.

Don't respond to her. Go file a report. Its not DH she's threatening, its YOU.

I know most posters are saying to block her from communicating. Normally, I would agree. But this woman is making threats. If she's blocked from communicating, Princess won't know what's going thru the BM's mind and if BM gets even more crazy, Princess won't know. BM could text her and say she's going to break all the windows in the house. Then when the windows are broken, Princess will have the evidence. If the BM is blocked, there won't be any way to prove what she's doing. BM is only hurting herself, because she's obviously not intelligent enough to realize that with every threat she's getting herself in deeper trouble. Press charges? Definitely. Like Katrinkie says, just do it. Don't give her any warning. But I wouldn't cut her off.

JMO.

What does your cop friend say to do?

is bf worth all of this? do you plan a long term relationship with him?? your young, he's recently divorced, the ex is crazy and the sd will probably be a nightmare..... is this the life time drama you want in your future?

if so, i agree with the everyone that you should take legal action.

For a start, his daughter would not be embasrrassed if her mother wasn't so stupid. So really, she only brought it on herself.

Personally I would text her once.. "I request you stop contacting me immediately."

This way you have proof that you did not want to contact her. It may go better in court than "I didn't respond". Sort of like telling someone they are trespassing when they obviously are. You make it abundantly clear you no longer want her to contact you.

The minute she sends another text (which she will)you report her for harrassment and threatening to kill. You have already told ehr not to contact you and she is continuing to do so. So sshe is more of a threat seeing she won't listen to 'no'. Don't tell your DH what you are doing until she has her butt in jail. Then tell him you consulted the police and they insisted on arresting her.

I thought she just wanted her ex back. But reading the texts it seems she wants you dead. You can play this out. And so what if her parents have money. They will be spending it on lawyers instead of Diet drinks and cigarettes for their daughter. I am sure that if her parents knew the content of the texts they would be telling her to stop it.

Princess, whatever you do, DON'T respond! It will just give her something to come back at you with should this progress into a legal matter. You need to do something. My FH too didn't want me to bother with the legal route, but guess what this is about you and your safety and well being, and he should understand that! You need to do something, I know when I did, it was the best thing that I ever did! After FH rationalized everything, he realized that I did the right thing. I have to tell you though BM was so surprised/shocked/furious that I stood up for myself the way I did, by ignoring her and just taking it to court. She tried to talk her way out of it, saying that I was the one harassing her, but I was the one there with a whole binder full of evidence and recorded voice mails too, and the judge had no problem seeing that she was the one, not me.

Little background on my situation. BM is from the town we grew up in, actually lived up the street from me when I was younger, so she knew of me way before FH and I met. She freaked when she found out he was seeing me, so she got a hold of my phone number from some "friends" or people I thought were my friends and started calling me leaving me ridiculous voice mails. She would see me driving down the road and go into psycho mode and call me up. I never answered her and let them all roll to voice mail. I was at the mall one time, she saw my car in the parking lot and decided to key my car after harassing me and making a huge scene in the mall. Tried to get me fired from work. Then on Christmas night she was so crazy that she drove to where me and FH were living and keyed my car in our driveway then called and left me a voice mail right after saying how she just did it! So dumb, they are idiots, but with all of this over a course of some time she had 2 peace orders, a restraining order, and was convicted of malicious destruction of private property of which she was ordered anger management, resititution, and probation for 5 years where she could have no contact with me whatsoever! Mine is crazy, but it shoulds like your BM is on the same exact path here!

The court should be able to do something for your, especially with the one text about your address, that is threatening to me. And when you do go to court you say that you are worried about your safety and feel as though she will actually come after you, and they will grant you some sort of relief. If she violates it, then she will get in even more legal trouble.

And I agree with others, it drives them nuts that you aren't responding, because you aren't giving her what she wants. She wants to get a reaction out of you and you aren't giving her the satisfaction. Let her say you are scared or whatever to her friends as the reason why you don't respond, who cares, she is pathetic one, not you!

Does she mention anything like this to your BF, or is it just you? Not that it changes the fact that you need to take legal action either way. I was just curious.

I agree with stepoff, don't respond to her, but keep the communication for her available so you have evidence... BM never actually threatened me, she is an airhead and all talk.. As of now the BM isn't really thinking she will get in trouble for what she is saying, she just thinks she is scaring you.. When my BFs BM first found out about me (after she filed divorce and he moved out) she messaged me on facebook, even my sister! She blew up my phone for weeks!! She would send me about 30 texts a day, call me about 20 times.. I NEVER replied! That's why she was pissed.. Then the stupid psycho came to my work LOL, and the bitch didn't do shit... Suprise suprise. THEY TALK a lot of shit, but usually don't follow thru! In your case, idk if your BM would or not, but if so, and god forbid, save the info!! So you can have proof.

I know how hard it is not to respond.. U just want to tell em off! BUT in the end acting as though u could give a crap gets their goat more than anything.

wow, you are worried about her but the real issue is that here she is threatening you, and bf doesnt want sd"to think bm is psycho"

news flash!!! she is psycho, and if bf isnt defending you now and wanting to protect you, he never will. i think you should do whats best for you and leave this loser, who obviously cares more about what his daughter thinks about her mom than your own safety!!!