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Girly question: for those on birth control, do you think the hormones help your mood?
The reason I'm asking is that I am thinking about replacing my IUD with a new one. I have Mirena and I loved it. Yes, past tense. I noticed when I started if four years ago that my monthly mood swings were barely noticeable. Now I will admit that was B.SL (before step-life). But I also had to take extra progesterone while pregnant as they thought my body wasn't able to maintain normal levels. And I was the happiest I've ever been in my life.
Add this to the list of clothing/shopping manipulations
All the kids have a clothing budget. We said it was for the school year, that they could get both warm and cold weather clothes with it.
They all have plenty of clothes and none of them used their whole budget. This is the first year we did it and to me it means we over budgeted. They are only supposed to get clothes using their budgeted monies, or their own funds.
Defense! Defense!
Sorry to be a blog hog but having a frustrating weekend.
The skids got invited to go out with a friend today. The parents offered to pick them up and chose a landmark for the them to meet the skids. This is a family from BMs suburb. The skids are going to be going to HS in that suburb soon. DH doesn't know anyone there though he's heard about a few kids.
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You don't see it, DH.
In big and small ways, there are examples of how I don't matter...well, at least how I am last on the list.
Here's the latest small and stupid way:
It's been hot for about a week. The house needs screens on over half the windows (no idea why DH and BM built a house and put in windows without screens and why DH thinks he has to custom make them). Anyway, the bedroom has two tiny windows with screens and we usually open a larger one with a window fan going.
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And now for the double standard
So DH excused YSS recently from somethings YSS took and was supposed to retrieve from BMs house by saying that it's BMs fault it can't be found as her house is so messy and she buys so much stuff that it's probably lost in the mix and immpossible to find.
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Sorry, it doesn't count DH
So, YSS took some things from this house without asking and that weren't his to take without asking. They are small things but it's a pattern, not an accident or first time offense. He was asked to find them and bring them back over a month ago.
DH told BM about what was missing and she found one. She sent it back. (This in itself is a miracle.)
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wine and step parenting
Me: I really like this brand of wine and I'm so happy to have found it cheaper at the X store.
DH: You're the wine expert.
Me: I'm not a wine expert, I'm a stepmom.
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Well that went over like a lead balloon, and I feel for BM a little
I sent DH the initial blog post about the "shout out" to type A personalities. He and I have been having trouble with how we handle things regarding all the kids and exes and such.
And now I got the "you don't interact with the kids"
Of course not!
They aren't bad kids. Please don't jump on them. It's because of DH and BM. I'm not punishing the skids.
But...I stepped back while DH and BM fought about schools. For my own sanity and so no one "got in trouble" because I had made any comments or given any guidance to DH or the skids.
I also stopped interacting with the kids because I was always doing it wrong per DH. So I went to polite chatter at meals, pleasant congrats on things, and the basic good manners.
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How do you get across to a dad that consequences are needed?
Now it's my ExH, too! He had DS this past weekend and got attitude but let DS go to a friends house where he stayed up all night. Then DS had to be dropped off at my house to do some chores he owes plus ALL his homework. He was a wreck from being up all night.
It would not have been so bad if he had been made to have his homework done first or was allowed to go but not stay overnight. Nope. He learned he can be a shit and still do whatever he wants cause dad won't deal with it.