THANKS so much for the comments! Im comforted to know that I am not crazy and making thing more than what they are in my head. Let me give you all some background about my feelings of being a "step mom". I was raised my a foster mother. I was a horrible teen and she loved me and did a GREAT job with me. I have finished high school, college, master's degree and working on a Ph.D. I have never been in trouble with the law and I do not have any children (not saying thats a bad thing). However, I have 4 other sisters and brothers (not raised with me) that have had a very difficult life.