hubby just got back from 100+ roundtrip to have his monthly visit witht the kids (teens, 2 emanicpated) and was stood-up at the connection point (church).
he called the kids and ex frantically and was finally given this explanation from the hypocrite BM (she is a devout "Christian" supposedly): "your visits are only on the 1st of month, which you missed, so you can see them in July".