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Submitted by step off already on Sat, 09/28/2013 - 7:06pm

Weeks ago, after several blow outs regarding him not taking acre of the yard and his "man jobs", I took the tIme to write out a list entitled, "things that are important to me". It included things like/

- If you take something out, put it away
- if we entertain, clean up everything within 24 hours
- be respectful of family comin areas and keep then clean
- be proud of or home

... And several variations of this same concept.

ExH and SM and the huge blowout at their house last night

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 09/26/2013 - 7:01pm

Exh asked me to pick up the kids today after school. Thursday's are his days and SM has been picking them up this school year on Thursday's even bough I offer since I'm home on maternity leave and go to the school to get SS anyway. He always declines. But I didn't think much of his request thus morning since I always offer.

SS13 Asks for a cell phone

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 09/26/2013 - 1:09pm

Last night I overheard DH tell SS, "I'm done with this. I don't want to talk about this anymore." So naturally I asked him what it was about later that night.

He said SS kept bugging him about getting him his own cell phone. DH told him to speak to his mother (who pays us no child support) and see if she will pay the monthly bill and then we can talk about getting him his own phone.

If you Have a Few Minutes, this is a super interesting read on Teens Moving in with Non Custodial Parent

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 09/24/2013 - 3:37pm

http://www.thelizlibrary.org/child-centered-divorce/teenagers-changing-c...

I was doing some research on another topic but found this article to be quite interesting as it is something DH and I have wondered about. DH is custodial for SS13 and SS has been visiting his BM for about a year on EOWe after her 7 year absence from her life. THis was the first year that they also did court-ordered two weeks on/ off throughout the summer where he missed out on a few things.

SS13 "needs" a ps3 Now - bahahahaha

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 09/24/2013 - 2:07pm

This kid is frickin amazing with his needs and wants and his "subtle" way of letting us know.

I pick him up from school the other day and hang out a bit in the parking lot, making sure sm is coming to get bios. (I offer to get them in this particular day, but exh and sm handle this day but exh often gets mixed up so if she's not there, I just stuck around for a bit and will often call her or exH. To be clear, it's usually a good thing that I stick around Wink

Poor BM Doesn't know When to Pick SS13 up from School

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 09/19/2013 - 11:46am

BM is supposed to pick SS13 up directly from school on Fridays for her EOWe visit. Two weeks ago when I let the school know the days she was permitted to pick up SS, they let me know that she had called earlier that day to see what time school got out.

Fast forward to last night. SS is on the phone with her for their court ordered call. He comes into our room with the phone behind his back saying that BM wants to know what time to pick him up. DH looks at me, and I say "same time as always... same time as last time".

Sounds like the novelty has worn off

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Submitted by step off already on Sun, 09/08/2013 - 12:34am

Friday morning, DH finally got to hear ss13 say that he didn't want to go to BM's and he wished he could just stay home.

It's taken about a year and a half for SS to vocalize this. BM basically disappeared from his life when he was only 5 but reemerged (magically) when SS was 11 - just around the time dh and I became serious.

Anyway, ss longed for his mom so dh gave her EOWe visitation through the courts. After his first overnight visit, SS broke dh's heart when he asked if he could live with bm one day and visit his dad on the weekends.

FU DH...and mil, and sil and ... All ya'all. Can you say FB drama?

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 09/05/2013 - 10:19pm

Let me preface this by saying dh does not have an fb cz it's too much drama with the ex and he isn't very Internet savvy.

Earlier this week, dh tells me that his mom is irritated because she hasn't seen enough posted photos of our baby. And that she also upset because I don't call HER enough to invite her over to see rhe baby.

I was like: WTF?!

Update: dH wants to put Internet in SS13's room

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 09/05/2013 - 9:59pm

I AM LIVID.

I tell dh that I do not agree about the children having Internet access in their rooms and that we need to figure out how to make sure we out limits on their mobile devices befor they figure out how to access things we don't want themto have.

Dh listens but he brings it back up tonight after a discussion with ss13. Dh tells me that SS is willing to pay for it on his own and he wants to encourage him to have friends (so he can play Xbox games with his classmates - which is why he wants the Internet).

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