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Poor SS13 thinks that bM's court ordered calls (per the RO) are his responsibility
We figured his out a few weeks ago when he frantically knocked on our door stating he HAD to call BM
We briefly explained that it was not HIS responsibility. BM was permitted one call during a specific window of time. It's nice that he thinks of his mom, but he needs to focus on his homework and if/when bm calls during her designated time, we will let him know.
SS13's Latest "request"...as if the shoes, ipad, ipod, cell phone, internet in his bedroom, etc wasn't enough
He wants to go to private high school next year - the most expensive one in the area - because "all" his friends are going there.
This is SS's 2nd year attending the private school that my kids have gone to since Pre-K. I pushed to enroll SS in the school last year as he really needed the extra attention and to improve his skills and get to grade level. Private high school was never part of the plan and he was told that from the beginning, as were my own children.
Update: SS13 won't ask bm for early drop off but has no prob asking dh for goods
SS13 told dh he "forgot" to ask his mom about his desire to attend the bday party and cone home early. DH called him on it and asked him if he just didn't want to deal with "it" and SS13 confirmed. (bm makes everything difficult so we (all) find it easier to just follow the court order precisely.
SS13 asks over and over, "Is this baby sister's first time here"
The more SS13 relaxes and falls into place, the more I feel sorry for the kid.
Over the weekend DH and I took the kids to an amusement park. Me and my kids got season passes for the summer and visited several times (both before and after the baby was born) while SS was at his mom's house. He spent half of his time there.
He asked if it was baby sister's first time there. We responded with a no and tried to leave it at that. He went on and figures out it was while he was at BM's house. This was SS's first time to this park. I could tell he felt left out.
What DH and SS13 talked about on the Shoe Trip
So while DH was treating SS13 to a new pair of shoes, DH tried to instill some fatherly wisdon upon SS.
Well, first, SS asked, "If I keep doing well in school can I get a new pair of shoes like every other week?" LMAO!!!!
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For Newbie SMs that Deal with Rotten SKIDS
It CAN get better.
I know I complain about my SS13 A LOT on this site and thank you all for listening. I just thought I'd take a minute to let you know that things CAN get better.
My SS has told me he hates me, that I've ruined his life, has told me NO blatantly to my face when I've asked him to do something, called me "the mean one", etc, etc. He literally saw me as the worst thing to ever happen to him.
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Ss13 is so off
I volunteered dh to drive for a field trip for dd12 and ss13's class. They are in a very small private school and are in the same 7th/8th grade class with about 15 kids total.
Dh returned and I asked how it went and dh tells me that SS was like"dad, show 'em your tattoos..dad, tell them xyz". Then SS would turn up the heat for te back of the car and ask everyone of they liked the heat. Then ss would change the radio station and turn it up. Dh would turn it back down.
SS tries SO hard. I laugh at the kid but also feel bad for him.
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And while I'm at it ... Ss13 won't go upstairs because ... Wait for it...
It's too scary up there.
He won't go get the dog. He won't go put his stuff away.
Yes. This is the same kid that peed in water bottles because he was too scared to come out of his room in the middle of the night.
And dh just says "ok".
Surprise! Another let down from BM
Ss13 has been telling us for the last two weeks that bm was going to be takin him to the Halloween event at a local amusement park where they basically turn the amusement park into a big haunted house after dark.
I'm sure you know where this is going...
We pick him up from his visit and ask how it was and he says "oh, we didn't go. She says she'll take me next time". Next visit is after Halloween.
Dh asks ss13 if his mom took him to find anything for his costume and the answer, of course, was "no"
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Is our "blended family" finally falling into place?
And by that, I guess that I really just mean that SS13 isn't being a constant A-hole and hanging on every lie that bm (who abandoned him for 7 years) tells him.
- Hes off for his EOWe visitation and don't want to leave the house this morning before saying goodbye to our three month old, his baby sister
- he makes an effort to ask my opinion regarding his hair or his outfit for picture day - a BIG change from him telling me how much he hates me and how I've ruined his life.
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