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Letting DH teach SS13 How to Address a Thank You Card

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Submitted by step off already on Sat, 04/13/2013 - 9:59pm

So, apparently, my 13 year old SS has no idea how to address an envelope. He's been working on his thank you cards for his bday. I reminded him that in addition to the ones he'd bring to school for friends, he also needed to write ones for family members that sent him things in the mail or attended his party.

So he provides the envelopes with the names scibbled across the front. I remind him that these need to be sent in the mail and ask him if he knows how to address a letter. He says something under his breath so I ask him again. He doesn't know how.

BM: Bring your money to my house and I'll spend it for you / I'll open an account for you so you can save up for something big

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Submitted by step off already on Sat, 04/13/2013 - 11:35am

First off, we give the kids allowance every other week so that they have spending money and are not always asking us for a dollar here and there or to buy them something everywhere we go. Our answer, "use your allowance".

That being said, if the kids want to use the money we give them at their other parent's house, that's fine. I think it's their choice and part of learning about money, choices and priorities, etc. (Even though it irks me when SS tells us he brings his money to BM's when the non-support baying Bit!! is taking him somewhere fun).

SS13 Only Wants to go on the Trip if Me and DH are Paying / Learning What it Means to Earn $$

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Submitted by step off already on Sat, 04/13/2013 - 11:07am

So last night was revealing. We had our talk with SS about his report card, what our expectations were moving forward and what the consequences were going to be if things were not taken care of.

Then we moved on to his 5 day school trip across the country and asked him if he thought he had earned the trip and whether he thought he deserved to go. He immediately started in with an attitude and a mocking voice saying no. His dad told him to knock it off, that we were trying to have a mature discussion with him. (Nice DH!).

Pre-Rant - SS13's teacher said she's sending home his report card today

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 04/09/2013 - 5:56pm

Can't wait to see what type of attitude SS will have tonight.

DH knows exactly how I feel.

And after SHOWING DH exactly what it costs to send SS to this private school - especially in comparison to what DH makes on a monthly basis, I think DH will definitely be on board with my parenting advice and consequences.

How Did YOU find StepTalk?

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 04/09/2013 - 3:43pm

I know for me, I googled, "telling kids about new baby in blended family" or something like that. I kept getting links to the forum section.

After a while I started poking around. I was horrified by the ways people openly discussed their disdain for their skids.

Time went by.

I began to resent my SS13.

Now I post daily.

SS13 - Even MORE Drama tonight

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Submitted by step off already on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 9:50pm

First day back at school from spring break.

DH picks my bios and SS13 up from school today and SS approaches him with a major attitude about how he knows DH is going to take everything away. DH tells him to knock it off and not give him attitude at school. SS continues.

I arrive at home a few minutes before everyone else. I know nothing.

I'm making dinner while DS9 is doing homework at the table and he asks me why SS is grouchy. I have no idea that something is going on upstairs between SS and DH.

SS13 Says, "Now I'm Jealous of Your Room?

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Submitted by step off already on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 11:18am

When we first moved into our family home (that I purchased for us), DH and I decided to put all the kids into bedrooms upstairs and open up one of the bedrooms into a family room so that the kids could have their own area in the house. We opted to take a very dinky room that is barely large enough for our Queen Size bed, but it was downstairs away from BD12, BS10, BS9 and SS13.

Blog Hogging: DH "doesn't want to fight about SS, but..."

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Submitted by step off already on Wed, 04/03/2013 - 8:34pm

"... can you see why I'm upset?"

Um, no DH. I'M UPSET!

DH admits his feelings are hurt. But his point is that he always includes my kids, that there's a double standard around here, that I put out bad vibes to ss too...

Let's look at that DH:

You always include my kids? Well, we certainly didn't do a "family" think for SS's bday last week when you took him out and spend $100 on dinner and peewee golf. His response? "The kids weren't here". Oh ya, DH, well, guess what? SS wasn't here today either when I took MY kids to the amusement park.

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