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SS Having a Hard Time Buying BM's Lies

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 03/05/2013 - 1:50pm

SS13 is old enough now to try and reason with his mother, but may just be coming to the understanding that BM is full of SH**!

He's always asking to spend more time with her and we tell him it's fine, but she needs to drive the hour to come get him and return him. Right now she has EOWE and this has been the case since last summer. Before that, she was basically absent for the 7 years prior. So no, we do not go out of our way for her at all.

Oh SS13, When Will You Learn?

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Submitted by step off already on Mon, 03/04/2013 - 3:36pm

Homework is always an issue for SS13. We enrolled him in the same small private school that my bios attend so that he could get the attention he needs. He ALWAYS seems to "forget" to do his homework. He will look his dad in the eye and tell him he is done with his homework and even take the time to show him what's been done, but then we find out that he skipped SOMETHING.

BM: "Thought you would put your son first for once"

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Submitted by step off already on Fri, 03/01/2013 - 12:11pm

DH told BM that he was more than happy to allow her extra visitation with SS13, but she would need to both pick him up and deliver him home.

She was shocked that DH wouldn't meet her half way during one of her two specified times that she would be available to meet. Her response, "I can't believe you won't meet me half way. It's only fair. Thought you would put your son first, for once"

BM thinks the world revolves around her

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 2:54pm

Not that this is any surprise, but BM seems to think that the world revolves around her.

SS13 asked her last night if she would really spend extra time with him this weekend (since she offered to come out one day during the week after school, but hasn't). We told him, when he asked us, that his mom will need to contact DH to coordinate a special visit.

Like Sand Through the Hour Glass

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Submitted by step off already on Mon, 02/25/2013 - 10:47am

My life is a soap opera!

Last night, we pick up SS13 after his weekend visit with BM. This was his first visit after the hearing and his first visit since she found out I was pregnant. She spent the weekend telling SS that the baby was not his blood, that his dad will spend even LESS time with him once the baby gets hear, etc, etc.

Wondering What Happens this summer

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Submitted by step off already on Fri, 02/22/2013 - 12:50pm

One of the original court orders from DH and BM's custody hearings stated that last summer BM got a two week visit in summer with SS. IT said in successive summers, the schedule should be two weeks on/off with each parent.

The newest court orders only state that parents will bring SS to his activites.

I'm wondering:

Custody Case Complete (for now)

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 12:46pm

So we had the final hearing yesterday for DH and BM regarding SS13. The final outcome is that DH continues to have primary custody and BM has every other weekend. Poor thing wanted to make sure that she didn't have to drive the entire hour to our house in the summer time, so she made sure to bring that up in court, stating that meeting at the locked up school is unsafe. (They meet at a public transportation station, for god's sake, but I digress).

Sometimes I feel so sorry for SS13

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 02/19/2013 - 12:22pm

We took all the kids and SS13's two cousins out to the mountains yesterday and did some hiking, sightseeing, rock climbing (OK, on a very small scale, but they gotta start somewhere).

Halfway through the day, SS13 tells DH how much he loves it and the entire day. He does this often when we do family outings. We are a pretty busy family as we have ss13 full time and my BD12, BS10 and BS8 about 60%+ of the time, plus we try to go to their games even when they're not with us.

Valentine's Day Love

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Submitted by step off already on Fri, 02/15/2013 - 11:45am

I woke up yesterday morning to flowers and candy and a card and even another card in my car. DH said he was going to take me out to dinner last night too.

At dinner he apologized for his actions the last few nights and said he's been tired and short tempered from working long hours. He even told me that SS13 was going to talk to me over the weekend about everything and I've noticed that SS seems to have been going out of his way the last few days to be respectful and friendly to me.

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