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Submitted by stepm0nster on Thu, 11/15/2012 - 12:13am

Had a family meeting with SD15 and DH and counselor tonight. I tried hard not to roll my eyes. Counselor wanted to outline 'typical delression behavior" and give SD lots of room to be obnoxious. Shes not as bad as some of the horror stories i've read on here, BUT. But but but. I feel myself becomming more and more resentful that this is now my life. When we decided to move here, we came from a low place and were excited for a shiny new start.

More than we thought

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Submitted by stepm0nster on Thu, 11/08/2012 - 2:13pm

So after having met with the SD's counselor, my husband and I are realizing this kiddo has way WAY more issues than we originally thought. He and I are having a real struggle being on the same page. All he is seeing is the suicide threat - and i get that. But me, as the 'outsider', see it and feel it differently.
I did not sign on for a deeply troubled depressed suicidal teenager. I signed on to help a kid who asked to be put in a healthy environment and asked for consequences and boundaries.

Fantasy

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Submitted by stepm0nster on Mon, 11/05/2012 - 6:24pm

I fantasize about my own apartment with my own children. I don't even care if it's a shoebox. My shoebox will have no sourpuss stepshoes in it. It'll all be my say, my rules and up to me to follow through with my own ideas with my kids.
Sad, really. Life can turn so quickly and unexpectedly. I often think "if i knew then what i know now, would i?" and i don't know. I certainly would do all i could to prevent anyone i know from doing it.

No end

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Submitted by stepm0nster on Mon, 11/05/2012 - 2:21pm

I'm not seeing an end in site to this mess. Everything blew up last night with my husband, and i had to face the reality of 'what if this doesn't work and i have to step away?'
I have two small children and i haven't worked in nearly five years because my husband has moved us all over the country. How do i step away from him and his daughter while still keeping things stable for MY kids (that are his) ?!

OMG!!

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Submitted by stepm0nster on Thu, 11/01/2012 - 4:02pm

This is proving far more exhausting and difficult than I had anticipated. And i was expecting a lot !! I don't understand how so little can be expected of a person ,and rare consequences do no one any good.
It's beyond difficult to expect a person of one upbringing to raise a child that is a-not their own and b-raise child with none of their own rules or expectations. If you want to allow certain behavior, then the consequences also are your own, not mine.