well in order to understand, I have to give some back story.

My dh told me he was divorced when we met. He told me they hadn't been together since his youngest was a few months old. She was born in march 2006. We met March 15, 2010. Dating right away, told me he wanted to only date each other, waited a year to meet the kids and his nasty ass ex. He basically hid how she was the entire time. They had an agreement with the kids, things were civil (ha).