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Submitted by stepoff on Thu, 10/29/2009 - 11:23pm

We're going around and around again. DH and I are arguing about the birth control bill issue - yet again! He says that I need to clarify with everyone his version of what REALLY happened.

The first time the bill came in, I gave it to DH to give to SD to pay. He did that. A month passed. The second time, the bill came in the mail on a Thursday. I immediately texted DH at his job to let him know that this bill arrived again. He said he would disucuss it with SD. I put the bill in an envelope, addressed it to SD, and mailed it before DH got home the same day.

Secret cell phone calls?

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Submitted by stepoff on Wed, 10/28/2009 - 8:24am

Some of you may remember my blog regarding SD20's pharmacy bill for birth control pills that DH and I ended up paying last month. He also gave her her Christmas present early on Sunday. Ugh. So our cell phone bill arrived yesterday. While looking through the bill, I noticed that there is not 1 call or text or anything from SD to her father on that bill since the birth control fiasco. Before that happened, they would call or text almost daily. And I'm fine with that - it's his daughter. Apparently, she has now chosen to contact her father through his work cell.

The Christmas sh!t has already hit the fan!

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Submitted by stepoff on Mon, 10/26/2009 - 9:48am

About a month ago I purchased 2 $50 gift certificates for a store that sells beauty products for SD20's Christmas present. I was planning to wait to see if SD paid back any of the money that she owes us recently before determining how much of the gift card money to give her for Christmas. So far, she hasn't paid back a single red cent of the money we loaned her (and I'm absolutely expecting her to pay none of it back), so I was planning to give her one of the cards for $50 and saving the other for her birthday in March.

Do you ever feel cheated as a second wife?

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Submitted by stepoff on Fri, 10/16/2009 - 9:04am

DH and I had a discussion regarding his family. I told him how I felt about not being able to open up to his side of the family for fear of BM finding things out. BM is still in contact with many of his family members.

I feel cheated because BM had it all going for her as his first wife. She didn't have to deal with the drama of being "second wife".

Just a few of the reasons I feel cheated:

A gifting dilemma...

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Submitted by stepoff on Tue, 10/13/2009 - 7:55am

Yesterday was my birthday. Yes ladies, the big 4-0! UGH! I'm not devastated though because I really don't feel forty. It was quite a nice day with myself and DH. What does bother me (just slightly) is the fact that neither SD20 or SS25 acknowledged the occasion. This doesn't surprise me at all, so that's not the problem. The problem is I know that I will begin to shoot steam from my ears when SD birthday arrives and she begins to request gifts. Not so much SS, he doesn't offer suggestions unless we ask him. But SD will literally come out and say "oh, that's a nice handbag NMF1!

SD and BM 'scrounging' for money again...

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Submitted by stepoff on Mon, 09/28/2009 - 9:12am

SD20 is on birth control pills. 3 months ago or so, we received a bill for her prescription twice (she was on DH's insurance until recently). She finally paid it. So a bill came in the mail again on Thursday from the mail order pharmacy for SD20's pills. This is the 2nd bill we've received for this particular prescription. She never seems to have the money to pay for this, and was not working all summer until about 3 weeks ago (her choice). Mind you, it's only the deductible amount, not the full amount of the prescription.

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