I posted my blog earlier about BM not willing to take any time off to take care of her sick son, my SS2. My fiance texted her and asked what the status was (wondering who was doing what) and her text back said, "I took care of it, that's all you need to know." DF texted back and said, "Well I do need to know where he is because that is in our court stipulation." Finally she told him that her friend was picking SS2 up and keeping him for the day. Then DF decided to call her instead of text. I was there and heard how he started the conversation:

I've been gone from StepTalk for a few weeks now - just busy busy busy! We have finally started putting together our wedding plans, we had a vacation, and I started a new job. Now we are getting back into the daily grind and I have time to vent again! However, I think it's good to take a healthy vacation from venting sometimes. Here's my update on all things vent-a-licious in my life as a SM.

I've blogged before about SS3's behavior. He's great for us, as we give him boundaries, explain things to him (we can't pull the dog's tail because that hurts him, we clip our nails so they don't scratch our friends and get dirty, we have to leave gymnastics because they are going to turn off all the lights and leave...etc!). He usually tests our boundaries in the first hour we have him and then seems to remember we don't put up with stuff and then he's great.

BM has openly admitted to both me and DF that she has a lot of problems with SS3. He basically calls the shots when he's in her care. For example, he's potty trained (except at night) yet he pulls his pants down and pees on her floor, then laughs at her when she cleans it up. He would NEVER do that at our house and we can't even picture him doing something like that. She can't control him when they're in public, she has a hard time getting him to bed, he won't let her cut his nails, etc. A lot of issues that we feel stem from her giving up and just giving in to him with whatever he wants.