This is my first time at Step Talk and need some advise with my hardheaded 9 year old stepson "A". A small example of what I'm talking about is what happened this morning....I went into his and my son's bedroom, I saw some of his underware on the floor, I asked if it was clean or dirty and as always, he just stands there with a blank look on his face, with his mouth half open and blinking his eyes......I pause to give him a second to think about it and nothing, no answer. I tell him to give me an answer because he has to go to school and there's not any time for that.